I was listening to some Ohso Talks today and I learnt something quite interesting.
Men who are circumcised are more intelligent than men who are not.
When a baby is circumcised the shock of the circumcision goes to the sexual center in the brain and activates it, and the sexual center in the brain is right next to the intelligence center. So when the shock activated the sexual center, it also activated the intelligence center.
This is not the case however for men who are circumcised later on in life.
:o)
Ghita
Friday, September 7, 2007
Thursday, June 21, 2007
"Feeling Insecure? GO DO YOUR CHAKRAS!"
Question:
I was wondering - what do you do when you feel insecure? I've been feeling insecure lately, and I spent all of yesterday meditating and even did a hypnosis! It was so great, every time I meditated, I had less and less fears to let go of.
My Comments:
You just answered your own question; meditation is the best way to let go of insecurities. When you meditate you give your mind a chance to quiet down and sort out the "extra blockage" that is surrounding you.
Another thing about "insecurities" is having the ability to be able to voice the insecurity, (a.k.a .as worry and self doubt) with your partner. I have this quote that I love from Eckhart Tolle:
I used to have a big problem with speaking my truth, voicing my insecurities, my worries, and my self-doubts. I did not want to 'seem' like some scared little girl, which just made it worse because I was holding all these things inside and really was scared.
I still do hold things in, but I've come a long way since I met Stephane, he could see through my non-verbal actions right down to what I was really feeling inside. I cannot hide anything from him. It is truly liberating, an enormous freedom which at first seems difficult. Because telling people what is on your mind, what is truly on you mind can be one of the hardest things do. People lie constantly, to themselves, to others, and I was definitely no exception, so when it came down to crunch time and being honest with my self, I found it pretty hard.
I just thank Stephane for being there with me on the days when I'm not feeling my self and listening to me. Then he usually tells me to go and do a meditation :o) lol, I usually go and do the orange chakra meditation, and/or yellow chakra meditation and read the Eckhart Tolle quote about worry. I take some time to breathe and allow any stress to leave my body.
Going to do a chakra meditation :o)
Ghita
I was wondering - what do you do when you feel insecure? I've been feeling insecure lately, and I spent all of yesterday meditating and even did a hypnosis! It was so great, every time I meditated, I had less and less fears to let go of.
My Comments:
You just answered your own question; meditation is the best way to let go of insecurities. When you meditate you give your mind a chance to quiet down and sort out the "extra blockage" that is surrounding you.
Another thing about "insecurities" is having the ability to be able to voice the insecurity, (a.k.a .as worry and self doubt) with your partner. I have this quote that I love from Eckhart Tolle:
Are you worried? Do you have many "what if" thoughts? You are identified with your mind, which is projecting itself into an imaginary future situation and creating fear.
There is no way that you can cope with such a situation because it doesn't exist. It's a mental phantom. You can stop this health-and-life corroding insanity simply by acknowledging the present moment.
Become aware of your breathing. Feel the air flowing in and out of your body. Feel your inner energy field. All that you ever have to deal with cope with, in real life - as opposed to imaginary mind projections- is this moment.
Ask yourself, what "problem" you have right now, not next year, tomorrow, or five minutes from now. What is wrong with this moment?
You can always cope with the Now, but you can never cope with the future - nor do you have to. The strength, the right action, or the right resource will be there when you need it, not before, not after.
Power Of Now
By: Eckhart Tolle
I used to have a big problem with speaking my truth, voicing my insecurities, my worries, and my self-doubts. I did not want to 'seem' like some scared little girl, which just made it worse because I was holding all these things inside and really was scared.
I still do hold things in, but I've come a long way since I met Stephane, he could see through my non-verbal actions right down to what I was really feeling inside. I cannot hide anything from him. It is truly liberating, an enormous freedom which at first seems difficult. Because telling people what is on your mind, what is truly on you mind can be one of the hardest things do. People lie constantly, to themselves, to others, and I was definitely no exception, so when it came down to crunch time and being honest with my self, I found it pretty hard.
I just thank Stephane for being there with me on the days when I'm not feeling my self and listening to me. Then he usually tells me to go and do a meditation :o) lol, I usually go and do the orange chakra meditation, and/or yellow chakra meditation and read the Eckhart Tolle quote about worry. I take some time to breathe and allow any stress to leave my body.
Going to do a chakra meditation :o)
Ghita
Monday, June 18, 2007
"Feminine Energies and Tree Hugging"
*Question:
Hi Ghita!!
Hmmm I'm really having some trouble reconnecting with my feminine side... I just only recently figured out that I've misinterpreted giving my power away as femininity, and that I've totally forgot how to be feminine... hmmm, I'm feeling kinda lost here, if you could offer some help it'd be awesome!! Like advice on how to separate poorme-bullshit from real femininity and such...
Thanks and luvs and warm hugs.
Ghita comments:
Learning the difference between giving away your power and being a feminine woman is something that I continue to work on a daily basis. It is really all about trusting yourself. If you cannot trust yourself, than you 'll have a hard time trusting others who are in your life.
It's about letting go of neediness. Many women tend to gravitate towards men that need us. And then we end up giving everything we've got to that man and having no energy left for ourselves. We freely let ourselves be energy vamped because we have the illusion that we are in love when we really are just needy. We have the need to be needed. (it reminds me of the song "I want you to want me, I need you to need me'
We crave love so badly that we'll put ourselves in positions of complete giving but for wrong reasons.
As a woman, a feminine woman, we may have to check our red, orange and yellow chakras a bit more and on a regular basis. You CAN trust yourself. You ARE OKAY. You have ENERGY to be YOURSELF. You are alive, and you are well. You ARE OKAY. (and say this out loud to yourself, I am okay, I am alive, and I am okay)
When you're interacting with others, it is out of a 'want' to interact. Not out of a 'need' to interact. You are choosing to interact with another person, you're not needing them.
And while you are interacting, you TRUST yourself that you will not let your self be energy vamped by others, and that you TRUST YOUR SELF that you will not do the same to others. This takes time and practice - you need to start cataloguing all of the little ways in which you give away your power, and shining the light of awareness on those.
When it comes to poor-me energies, I have a little trick. Its really simple, and it involves going for a walk in nature.
When you have an attack of the 'poor-me' energy it is usually from doing/saying/thinking something that you're ashamed of, and then going back into your head and thinking about all the other 'stupid' stuff that you've said/done/thought about.
And then it becomes a vicious cycle where you think about what you just did, what you've done, what you should do, and then what you just did do, and then about what you had done in the past and etc. etc.
Stephane tells me that this "cycle of poor me energy" is the equivalent of getting out a nice heavy hammer and whacking yourself on the head repeatedly until you learn a lesson. It's great fun you should try it the next time you go into a poor me cycle.(Please note that that was a joke and should not be attempted at home, haha)
When you are emotional, (ain't being a woman grand ;o) if you are in an area of "PM (poor-me)" then my first suggestion is to let out the energy of crying, anger, irritation, depression, out in a safe place, like a quiet park, forested area, your garden, or any place where there are trees and vegetation.
The reason I say go for a walk (especially in a green environment) is because it will let you breathe deeply (rich oxygen around the trees and vegetation)and you will be able to re-connect with your roots. And if you want to cry you will be able to freely, crying is a 'let-go' energy, (and you KNOW the difference between a 'let-go' cry and a 'PM' cry) you're releasing the energy of whatever you might think is 'wrong' with you, you letting go of the PM energy, releasing the blame you might feel for hurting your self, and you'll be able to realize what you can do in future pro-actively to not put your self in situations where you are hurting your self (or others).
When things are up in the air and you feel you have no control one of the steps I take to reconnect with myself is go out and hug a bunch of trees. You will ground yourself this way and feel like you ARE in control of your emotions.
Realize the freedom you have to be your self. When you are by yourself do you sing out loud? Do you dance weird dances? Do you check out your butt in the mirror and approve? Do you say funny things and talk in a different language that only you understand?
Become child-like again. Run naked around your house. Then lie down on the floor and breath deeply and sing a silly song. Get in touch with you. With your body, with your own personal freedom, with the feminine side of you.
breathing deeply with you while you run around naked and sing silly songs,
Ghita
p.s. While Stephane and I were up North we ran into some great looking trees and I took a few pictures to remind myself of how incredible nature is and how nature doesn't have attacks of the PM's
The tree that sang "I will survive" to me:
And feminine within the masculine ( We call this one "The Pussy Tree" ^^)
Hi Ghita!!
Hmmm I'm really having some trouble reconnecting with my feminine side... I just only recently figured out that I've misinterpreted giving my power away as femininity, and that I've totally forgot how to be feminine... hmmm, I'm feeling kinda lost here, if you could offer some help it'd be awesome!! Like advice on how to separate poorme-bullshit from real femininity and such...
Thanks and luvs and warm hugs.
Ghita comments:
Learning the difference between giving away your power and being a feminine woman is something that I continue to work on a daily basis. It is really all about trusting yourself. If you cannot trust yourself, than you 'll have a hard time trusting others who are in your life.
It's about letting go of neediness. Many women tend to gravitate towards men that need us. And then we end up giving everything we've got to that man and having no energy left for ourselves. We freely let ourselves be energy vamped because we have the illusion that we are in love when we really are just needy. We have the need to be needed. (it reminds me of the song "I want you to want me, I need you to need me'
We crave love so badly that we'll put ourselves in positions of complete giving but for wrong reasons.
As a woman, a feminine woman, we may have to check our red, orange and yellow chakras a bit more and on a regular basis. You CAN trust yourself. You ARE OKAY. You have ENERGY to be YOURSELF. You are alive, and you are well. You ARE OKAY. (and say this out loud to yourself, I am okay, I am alive, and I am okay)
When you're interacting with others, it is out of a 'want' to interact. Not out of a 'need' to interact. You are choosing to interact with another person, you're not needing them.
And while you are interacting, you TRUST yourself that you will not let your self be energy vamped by others, and that you TRUST YOUR SELF that you will not do the same to others. This takes time and practice - you need to start cataloguing all of the little ways in which you give away your power, and shining the light of awareness on those.
When it comes to poor-me energies, I have a little trick. Its really simple, and it involves going for a walk in nature.
When you have an attack of the 'poor-me' energy it is usually from doing/saying/thinking something that you're ashamed of, and then going back into your head and thinking about all the other 'stupid' stuff that you've said/done/thought about.
And then it becomes a vicious cycle where you think about what you just did, what you've done, what you should do, and then what you just did do, and then about what you had done in the past and etc. etc.
Stephane tells me that this "cycle of poor me energy" is the equivalent of getting out a nice heavy hammer and whacking yourself on the head repeatedly until you learn a lesson. It's great fun you should try it the next time you go into a poor me cycle.(Please note that that was a joke and should not be attempted at home, haha)
When you are emotional, (ain't being a woman grand ;o) if you are in an area of "PM (poor-me)" then my first suggestion is to let out the energy of crying, anger, irritation, depression, out in a safe place, like a quiet park, forested area, your garden, or any place where there are trees and vegetation.
The reason I say go for a walk (especially in a green environment) is because it will let you breathe deeply (rich oxygen around the trees and vegetation)and you will be able to re-connect with your roots. And if you want to cry you will be able to freely, crying is a 'let-go' energy, (and you KNOW the difference between a 'let-go' cry and a 'PM' cry) you're releasing the energy of whatever you might think is 'wrong' with you, you letting go of the PM energy, releasing the blame you might feel for hurting your self, and you'll be able to realize what you can do in future pro-actively to not put your self in situations where you are hurting your self (or others).
When things are up in the air and you feel you have no control one of the steps I take to reconnect with myself is go out and hug a bunch of trees. You will ground yourself this way and feel like you ARE in control of your emotions.
Realize the freedom you have to be your self. When you are by yourself do you sing out loud? Do you dance weird dances? Do you check out your butt in the mirror and approve? Do you say funny things and talk in a different language that only you understand?
Become child-like again. Run naked around your house. Then lie down on the floor and breath deeply and sing a silly song. Get in touch with you. With your body, with your own personal freedom, with the feminine side of you.
breathing deeply with you while you run around naked and sing silly songs,
Ghita
p.s. While Stephane and I were up North we ran into some great looking trees and I took a few pictures to remind myself of how incredible nature is and how nature doesn't have attacks of the PM's
The tree that sang "I will survive" to me:
And feminine within the masculine ( We call this one "The Pussy Tree" ^^)
Wednesday, June 13, 2007
"Dream"
I had the most beautiful dream last night. I dreamt that I was in a huge brightly lit beautiful castle. I was searching for crystals. I was barefoot, and I could feel the stones under my feet. I found the crystals one by one, the first one was in the inner courtyard, and it was a huge bright red crystal. I mean enormous! I sat by it and then went to find the next crystal, which was in a different courtyard, another gigantic crystal, but this time it was orange. I could see the colors, and feel everything around me.
I continued my search and found the yellow crystal in a viewing room of sorts, almost like a greenhouse but without the roof. I then found the green crystal, which was located at the heart of the castle in the midst of a huge ocean, the water was flowing green and the water had paths throughout the castle. I knew I had to come back to this place.
I continued my search and found in all twelve crystals. The twelfth crystal was located near the green crystal. I had to dive into the water, and found that I could breath just fine. In the water there were dolphins swimming all around and talking to me. I found the most beautiful colors at the bottom of the ocean floor. It looked like a rainbow but it had colors that I had never seen before, it was the most enormous crystal I had ever seen. It spanned the whole of the ocean bed as far as the eye could see and radiated energy like I had never felt before.
I could feel the water around me, I could hear the dolphins and hear the energy, and I could see everything. Everything was vivid and alive, it was the most incredible dream I have ever had. When I woke up, I felt like I should dry myself off, even though I was not wet. My feet felt like I had been walking barefoot on stone, and my body felt rejuvenated.
It was the ultimate dream, the most real one I have ever experienced.
Ghita
I continued my search and found the yellow crystal in a viewing room of sorts, almost like a greenhouse but without the roof. I then found the green crystal, which was located at the heart of the castle in the midst of a huge ocean, the water was flowing green and the water had paths throughout the castle. I knew I had to come back to this place.
I continued my search and found in all twelve crystals. The twelfth crystal was located near the green crystal. I had to dive into the water, and found that I could breath just fine. In the water there were dolphins swimming all around and talking to me. I found the most beautiful colors at the bottom of the ocean floor. It looked like a rainbow but it had colors that I had never seen before, it was the most enormous crystal I had ever seen. It spanned the whole of the ocean bed as far as the eye could see and radiated energy like I had never felt before.
I could feel the water around me, I could hear the dolphins and hear the energy, and I could see everything. Everything was vivid and alive, it was the most incredible dream I have ever had. When I woke up, I felt like I should dry myself off, even though I was not wet. My feet felt like I had been walking barefoot on stone, and my body felt rejuvenated.
It was the ultimate dream, the most real one I have ever experienced.
Ghita
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
"Short Funny FR"
I was walking back home from the pharmacy just at the hour of dusk. I see this girl sitting on a picnic bench with her friend and the girl is wearing this stunning white dress, she's picturesque perfect. Anyways as I approach her I'm looking at her feet she has these awesome sandals on that I've never seen anywhere before. I'm about two feet away from her staring at her sandals and cute feet and I trip over something that is sticking out of the pavement. I almost fell into her lap. Recovering myself as she's asking me if I'm okay I say, "I'm fantastic, I fell over because I was checking you out and checking out your sandals, they're freaking awesome!"
Laughing she's like, I got them at *insert fancy expensive posh store here*.
I realize now that I'm face to face with her that she is a lot older than what I had originally thought, but she was really in shape, pretty and had an overall real beautiful aura about her. So we chitchat for a bit and I tell her that she's awesome and to have a great night.
So lesson of the day Ghita; If you're walking down the street and you see something you like, and then you almost fall flat on your face because you were so enthralled by what you were looking at. Tell 'em.
"I fell over because I was checking you out."
Bloody brilliant opener.
kisses
Ghita
Laughing she's like, I got them at *insert fancy expensive posh store here*.
I realize now that I'm face to face with her that she is a lot older than what I had originally thought, but she was really in shape, pretty and had an overall real beautiful aura about her. So we chitchat for a bit and I tell her that she's awesome and to have a great night.
So lesson of the day Ghita; If you're walking down the street and you see something you like, and then you almost fall flat on your face because you were so enthralled by what you were looking at. Tell 'em.
"I fell over because I was checking you out."
Bloody brilliant opener.
kisses
Ghita
Sunday, June 10, 2007
"Cute 4Set & Yin"
So I had some errands to do today on the other side of Montreal today and saw a super cute girl wearing a bright yellow dress and holding a piece of straw in her hand.
I told her, "You look like summertime with your yellow dress and your straw, you're real cute!" (Did a little dance move to show her what I thought of her, a cross between a little kid begging for something and a hot babe laughing and blushing)
Laughing she said "Aww yes I do don't I?"
"You know all we need now is to put ourselves in a huge field me and you and it would be picture perfect."
"Yes! Haha, that would be perfect!"
"So what are you doing”?
"Just wandering around"
"Why don't we go for a walk?"
"Sure!"
So we started walking and talking about nonsense things, like our shoes and how we love dresses, and the interaction was going really well until the boyfriend showed up.
Anyway, we walked to the corner of the street and she ran into two more fiends (guy and girl) so the one-set turned into a four set. Which I have to practice so it was good training purposes for yours truly.
We parted ways and I walked down the block. Ahead of me where three girls, one was wearing a white dress, one wearing a green dress and the third wearing a red dress. I was immediately reminded of Christmas time and the Winter.
So I said, "Hey you guys! Geez! You all remind me of winter! Of Christmas! Look at you three! Why would you do that!?" (Playful grin on my face on my face while I'm saying it :o)
Laughing, they hadn't realized their color coordination and agreed that they did indeed look like Christmas. I was about to introduce myself when the guy that they were with said, "Ghita!?"
Turns out I went to elementary school with him. Anyway I continued talking to all of them for a bit and did the whole, "how are you? I'm great!" thing with my elementary school buddy and wished them all a good afternoon and said bye to the x-mas girls.
It was bizarre seeing him because it reminded me of when I was younger, and how I had this huge crush on his girlfriend.
So that was basically the day of running four sets. I took the bus home and didn't see many other girls on the bus and metro.
Getting off the metro I saw that I had just missed my bus. So it being a beautiful day I walked home and smelt all the trees and flowers on the way.
Across the street I saw a group of 5 girls and a guy on a skateboard. I decided to investigate. They were ahead of me and I noticed that they were quite young. (14 to 16) So I just observed. And what I saw made my heart sing.
All the girls where holding hands and cuddling each other while walking down the street. Playing with each other’s hair, one of them even smacked the other on the butt; it was pure Yin energy, untainted, happy, alive and well. It made me smile all the way home.
The girls of today are bisexual; I see it everywhere I go. I see girls kissing girls, holding hands, being together and enjoying each other’s Yin energy. It really is a beautiful thing.
I came home and told Stephane, and he smiled knowingly, and then said, go write in your blog Ghita. lol, so here is the short story of my day.
Much appreciation for you all who read, and enjoy.
Ghita
I told her, "You look like summertime with your yellow dress and your straw, you're real cute!" (Did a little dance move to show her what I thought of her, a cross between a little kid begging for something and a hot babe laughing and blushing)
Laughing she said "Aww yes I do don't I?"
"You know all we need now is to put ourselves in a huge field me and you and it would be picture perfect."
"Yes! Haha, that would be perfect!"
"So what are you doing”?
"Just wandering around"
"Why don't we go for a walk?"
"Sure!"
So we started walking and talking about nonsense things, like our shoes and how we love dresses, and the interaction was going really well until the boyfriend showed up.
Anyway, we walked to the corner of the street and she ran into two more fiends (guy and girl) so the one-set turned into a four set. Which I have to practice so it was good training purposes for yours truly.
We parted ways and I walked down the block. Ahead of me where three girls, one was wearing a white dress, one wearing a green dress and the third wearing a red dress. I was immediately reminded of Christmas time and the Winter.
So I said, "Hey you guys! Geez! You all remind me of winter! Of Christmas! Look at you three! Why would you do that!?" (Playful grin on my face on my face while I'm saying it :o)
Laughing, they hadn't realized their color coordination and agreed that they did indeed look like Christmas. I was about to introduce myself when the guy that they were with said, "Ghita!?"
Turns out I went to elementary school with him. Anyway I continued talking to all of them for a bit and did the whole, "how are you? I'm great!" thing with my elementary school buddy and wished them all a good afternoon and said bye to the x-mas girls.
It was bizarre seeing him because it reminded me of when I was younger, and how I had this huge crush on his girlfriend.
So that was basically the day of running four sets. I took the bus home and didn't see many other girls on the bus and metro.
Getting off the metro I saw that I had just missed my bus. So it being a beautiful day I walked home and smelt all the trees and flowers on the way.
Across the street I saw a group of 5 girls and a guy on a skateboard. I decided to investigate. They were ahead of me and I noticed that they were quite young. (14 to 16) So I just observed. And what I saw made my heart sing.
All the girls where holding hands and cuddling each other while walking down the street. Playing with each other’s hair, one of them even smacked the other on the butt; it was pure Yin energy, untainted, happy, alive and well. It made me smile all the way home.
The girls of today are bisexual; I see it everywhere I go. I see girls kissing girls, holding hands, being together and enjoying each other’s Yin energy. It really is a beautiful thing.
I came home and told Stephane, and he smiled knowingly, and then said, go write in your blog Ghita. lol, so here is the short story of my day.
Much appreciation for you all who read, and enjoy.
Ghita
Wednesday, June 6, 2007
"Chocolate Martinis and Leading The Pack"
I checked my messages on my cell to find a call from a fellow ballerina who wanted to do "chocolate martinis girls night". Sweeeeeet! It was exactly what Stephane prescribed (I had been moody and in need of some Yin Therapy) I hooked up with the girls downtown. We were all wearing dresses and it was bloody freezing outside so we were eager to get to the destination.
We get to the place we're supposed to go to, (some retro's 80's club) only to be denied access at the door (one girl forgot her purse/ID and if one don't go, they all don't go, kind of like a pack of dogs, it's cute really) So we're in the street, the five of us and they're freaking a little bit cause they don't know what to do. So I said, let's go to my house! (heh-heh, time to show my leadership qualities to myself and others) It's a great feeling when you can direct and orchestrate a group to bigger and better things.
I called Stephane up and he was with a friend of his at home, I asked him if I could bring the girls by the house to shoot some pool and have some drinks. Laughing, he asked, "Why must you always bring home girls Ghita?"
So like the leader that I am I lead the girls to the bus stop and we jumped into the bus laughing and giggling. We got off at Mont-Royal Street and still had a ways to go to get back to my place. We jumped into a taxi and all of a sudden one of the girls realized her cell phone was missing. (She had dropped it when she got out of the bus)
So she almost starts crying and wailing and I'm like, okay! OKAY! EVERYTHING IS OKAY! Taxi driver, turn around we've gotta go back to where you picked us up!" Anyway, some guy had picked her phone up and everything was find afterwards, and she was like "Thank you so much Ghita for turning the taxi around!" lol, like I would have let her cry and just sit there... Such a cutie.
I took control of the situation like a champ. Directing the taxi driver to the new destination and calming the girl down and reassuring her then making jokes about how the guy could be calling phone sex lines and how it would reflect on her life and how she would have to explain to the phone company how she wasn't really a horny dirty girl but a nice and horny girl. So getting them laughing and still have high energy while in taxis is a must for moving sets around. There is always a bonus though if you have ALL girls, they have a tendency to just bounce things over to each other with such ease.
Note to Self: Funny how a girl kind of goes cooo-coo without her cell phone or her purse. Have you ever seen them? (I am not excluded from the above statement) They kind of go slightly nuts and flap their arms around like a chicken. And then tears well up in their eyes. And either you have to take the lead of the situation or they make a huge puddle of tears around themselves and throw little fits.
So we get to the house and they love the place, we have a nice cozy loft with a bunch of paintings on the walls, crystals here and there and candles, so when girls come over they have things to look at so that they can get comfortable with the place first. They have to sniff it out a little bit before getting comfortable you know?
Anyways we all get comfy and make some drinks and some jell-o shots and have a grand time. Stephane and his friend lay back during this time to give the girls come breathing room and to let them feel at ease. Stephane always knows what to do in situations like these, he reads minds I swear
I was the life of the party and we had a great time. It was exactly what I needed. I led them to playing pool, and coordinated them to make drinks, got them danced and then I got them all to help me clean up the kitchen. (It’s all about the teamwork!) At one point they were slightly confused as to who leads who (with me and Stephane) so Stephane (the mind reader) comes over to where we are all sitting and he picks me up over his shoulder pulls me into the hallway and we kiss, then he picks me up and puts me back down in my seat.
Point taken, Stephane is the leader, so we all follow Stephane's lead. :o) Something that is great about this is that there is no confusion as to what "roles" we have. And when meeting new people it's a good thing to make sure the roles are established before hand or else it gets confusing. It's like a dog sled, there's the first dog who leads and he's got a whole bunch of other dogs following him, but who in reality is truly leading? The Man with the sled and the reigns, he's telling the dogs where to go. Stephane is the Man; I am top dog in training, the rest of the pack follow.
It was all in all a sweet night. But towards the end two of the girls were falling in love with Stephane, and Stephane was like okay, I'm going now to get food, bye girls! It was funny because one of them started touching Stephane and having little battles with the other one of "who owns him". These two didn't really know all about IG so they didn’t really understand the "WE SHARE" frame that Stephane and I have.
The other two did understand the frame, and one of them was so nervous when she talked to Stephane it was hilarious. The other was intimidated as well so I put her to work in the kitchen so she would feel useful. Later he asked me if I had put any moves on her (the nervous one who kept talking to Steph), I was like nope baby, she does know that we have girlfriends together though. Laughing he was like OH! Right, so every time I said something all she was thinking about was what it would be like to be in bed with you and me! awwww, I love you Steph, thank you for helping me become a better woman and a proud woman!
The end of the night I thanked them all for coming and said "think about all the money we saved on booze!" To which they replied, "OH! Do you want us to pay you!?" lol, "No no!! I meant that it's a good thing we all saved our money so we can all go out some other time!"
Stephane said once that if she doesn't offer to pay something at least once then she's a taker and not a giver. Well all the girls pitched in for taxis, helped me in the kitchen, and offered to pay me for the night. Which is not what I meant when I said "think of all the money..." but still pretty sweet of them considering they all go to school and have part time jobs,
So, when you're making new friends Ghita, make sure they're givers, not takers. This summer will be awesome! And I will have more adventures for you soon!
Ghita
P.S. On another side note. While we were walking downtown and while we waiting for the bus there would always be people looking at us, usually a guy with his girlfriend, or the girlfriend or both, anyway, the girls would always get all prissy about it and say things like "Oh my god, what an asshole, he's got a girlfriend. What is HE looking at? What does SHE think she's looking at?" bla bla bla
So I started saying, "Hey there is no problem with that, we're hot girls, we got dressed up all pretty and if they both like girls and are checking us out cause they like us, nothing wrong with that in my book!"
And at first there was some resistance, to what I said. But then as I kept plowing them with the above sentence the 5th time that it happened where we were checked out THEY said, "Hey maybe they both like girls and it's okay right Ghita!" I said, "That is RIGHT!"
Another technique, you have them all together on a couch, and they're cuddling, holding hands and playing with each others hair, you tell them, "All girls are bisexual right!?" Cut them of when they try to answer, and say, "You don't see GUYS holding hands and walking into the bathroom do you? Have you ever kissed a girl? Don't you find other girls hot? You're playing with her hair" And you're hugging her! Come on you wouldn't kiss a girl? BULLS***"
To which they get frustrated because I asked so many questions at once they have to agree once I let them get a word in, plus I am persuasive as all hell that all women are bisexual and I'm right.
Ghita
We get to the place we're supposed to go to, (some retro's 80's club) only to be denied access at the door (one girl forgot her purse/ID and if one don't go, they all don't go, kind of like a pack of dogs, it's cute really) So we're in the street, the five of us and they're freaking a little bit cause they don't know what to do. So I said, let's go to my house! (heh-heh, time to show my leadership qualities to myself and others) It's a great feeling when you can direct and orchestrate a group to bigger and better things.
I called Stephane up and he was with a friend of his at home, I asked him if I could bring the girls by the house to shoot some pool and have some drinks. Laughing, he asked, "Why must you always bring home girls Ghita?"
So like the leader that I am I lead the girls to the bus stop and we jumped into the bus laughing and giggling. We got off at Mont-Royal Street and still had a ways to go to get back to my place. We jumped into a taxi and all of a sudden one of the girls realized her cell phone was missing. (She had dropped it when she got out of the bus)
So she almost starts crying and wailing and I'm like, okay! OKAY! EVERYTHING IS OKAY! Taxi driver, turn around we've gotta go back to where you picked us up!" Anyway, some guy had picked her phone up and everything was find afterwards, and she was like "Thank you so much Ghita for turning the taxi around!" lol, like I would have let her cry and just sit there... Such a cutie.
I took control of the situation like a champ. Directing the taxi driver to the new destination and calming the girl down and reassuring her then making jokes about how the guy could be calling phone sex lines and how it would reflect on her life and how she would have to explain to the phone company how she wasn't really a horny dirty girl but a nice and horny girl. So getting them laughing and still have high energy while in taxis is a must for moving sets around. There is always a bonus though if you have ALL girls, they have a tendency to just bounce things over to each other with such ease.
Note to Self: Funny how a girl kind of goes cooo-coo without her cell phone or her purse. Have you ever seen them? (I am not excluded from the above statement) They kind of go slightly nuts and flap their arms around like a chicken. And then tears well up in their eyes. And either you have to take the lead of the situation or they make a huge puddle of tears around themselves and throw little fits.
So we get to the house and they love the place, we have a nice cozy loft with a bunch of paintings on the walls, crystals here and there and candles, so when girls come over they have things to look at so that they can get comfortable with the place first. They have to sniff it out a little bit before getting comfortable you know?
Anyways we all get comfy and make some drinks and some jell-o shots and have a grand time. Stephane and his friend lay back during this time to give the girls come breathing room and to let them feel at ease. Stephane always knows what to do in situations like these, he reads minds I swear
I was the life of the party and we had a great time. It was exactly what I needed. I led them to playing pool, and coordinated them to make drinks, got them danced and then I got them all to help me clean up the kitchen. (It’s all about the teamwork!) At one point they were slightly confused as to who leads who (with me and Stephane) so Stephane (the mind reader) comes over to where we are all sitting and he picks me up over his shoulder pulls me into the hallway and we kiss, then he picks me up and puts me back down in my seat.
Point taken, Stephane is the leader, so we all follow Stephane's lead. :o) Something that is great about this is that there is no confusion as to what "roles" we have. And when meeting new people it's a good thing to make sure the roles are established before hand or else it gets confusing. It's like a dog sled, there's the first dog who leads and he's got a whole bunch of other dogs following him, but who in reality is truly leading? The Man with the sled and the reigns, he's telling the dogs where to go. Stephane is the Man; I am top dog in training, the rest of the pack follow.
It was all in all a sweet night. But towards the end two of the girls were falling in love with Stephane, and Stephane was like okay, I'm going now to get food, bye girls! It was funny because one of them started touching Stephane and having little battles with the other one of "who owns him". These two didn't really know all about IG so they didn’t really understand the "WE SHARE" frame that Stephane and I have.
The other two did understand the frame, and one of them was so nervous when she talked to Stephane it was hilarious. The other was intimidated as well so I put her to work in the kitchen so she would feel useful. Later he asked me if I had put any moves on her (the nervous one who kept talking to Steph), I was like nope baby, she does know that we have girlfriends together though. Laughing he was like OH! Right, so every time I said something all she was thinking about was what it would be like to be in bed with you and me! awwww, I love you Steph, thank you for helping me become a better woman and a proud woman!
The end of the night I thanked them all for coming and said "think about all the money we saved on booze!" To which they replied, "OH! Do you want us to pay you!?" lol, "No no!! I meant that it's a good thing we all saved our money so we can all go out some other time!"
Stephane said once that if she doesn't offer to pay something at least once then she's a taker and not a giver. Well all the girls pitched in for taxis, helped me in the kitchen, and offered to pay me for the night. Which is not what I meant when I said "think of all the money..." but still pretty sweet of them considering they all go to school and have part time jobs,
So, when you're making new friends Ghita, make sure they're givers, not takers. This summer will be awesome! And I will have more adventures for you soon!
Ghita
P.S. On another side note. While we were walking downtown and while we waiting for the bus there would always be people looking at us, usually a guy with his girlfriend, or the girlfriend or both, anyway, the girls would always get all prissy about it and say things like "Oh my god, what an asshole, he's got a girlfriend. What is HE looking at? What does SHE think she's looking at?" bla bla bla
So I started saying, "Hey there is no problem with that, we're hot girls, we got dressed up all pretty and if they both like girls and are checking us out cause they like us, nothing wrong with that in my book!"
And at first there was some resistance, to what I said. But then as I kept plowing them with the above sentence the 5th time that it happened where we were checked out THEY said, "Hey maybe they both like girls and it's okay right Ghita!" I said, "That is RIGHT!"
Another technique, you have them all together on a couch, and they're cuddling, holding hands and playing with each others hair, you tell them, "All girls are bisexual right!?" Cut them of when they try to answer, and say, "You don't see GUYS holding hands and walking into the bathroom do you? Have you ever kissed a girl? Don't you find other girls hot? You're playing with her hair" And you're hugging her! Come on you wouldn't kiss a girl? BULLS***"
To which they get frustrated because I asked so many questions at once they have to agree once I let them get a word in, plus I am persuasive as all hell that all women are bisexual and I'm right.
Ghita
Saturday, June 2, 2007
"A Question Posted On The IG Forum About Ghita's Giggles"
I've noticed on both of your videos (Breaking the Ice and GTP Body Language) that Ghita gets all giggly and her buying temperature goes way up whenever you look at her. It seems like she gets attracted whenever you say anything. Does this happen most of the time for you? If so, how the hell do you do it? I know that there is probably no quick fix and the squirting is probably a major contributor, but can you expand on this a bit?
Thanks,
"Sparks"
>My Reply:
We get this question a LOT !!
Stephane definitely makes me euphoric. He's got the best drug out there, love. When I look into his eyes, or even just look at him, I have this rush of good feelings that passes like a wave over my whole body, my temperature rises, and then I get goosebumps and then I just want to jump on him. Which happens often. heehee
I trust him, and when trust happens, you feel safe, and when you're safe you get happy, fast. I don't just mean "normal trust", I mean DEEP unconditional trust - the kind women dream about.
I feel I can just be free to be exactly who I am around him. I don't have to worry about anything. Most women are repressed, and know that if they were to let go and be the woman they truly are, the guy would freak and get too insecure. Most women have this complaint about their men, that they cannot HANDLE her.
So now, I'm like a child who has realized that the world is a phenomenally beautiful place and cannot wait to tell others about it.
I mean, when he looks at me, or I look at him (while he's busy working or on the can ;) I think that everything he does is beautiful, even if we are frustrated and stuck in something I have pure faith that everything will be okay. Because everything always turns out okay (well most of the time it turns out perfectly).
I trust him with my life. I fully and completely opened up to him, tell him everything, we have no secrets, we've had *girlfriends* together, went through so many difficulties with family and friends while building IG, we've grown together, and he's the only man in my life.
He knows what I'm feeling when I'm feeling it, and he knows, well, he knows how to treat a woman like a woman. And he has this way of moving slow and not reacting to things, like a bomb could go off and MAYBE he'll blink.
He's helped me blossom into something beautiful and every time I look at him I'm reminded of my own beauty, and I get overwhelmed (the good kind) and just start giggling. Plus he makes me laugh all the time. He grosses me out too. On purpose. Like he'll say the most disgusting things imaginable, deliberately trying to make me vomit. I don't know why I LIKE it so much, maybe Stephane could explain that one!
(Shit, I just asked him to explain it and he said, "Nope!" and then I said, "Pleeeeeease!" and he laughed & said, "There are some mysteries in life that will never be revealed!" and now I feel like screaming I'm so mad, yet at the same time I wanna jump his bones. Now he's joking around saying, "I didn't fuck women up, take it up with Creator. I'm not the programmer, Oh Neurotic female freak, I'm just a dumb wizard running the programs!)
I love us.
Giggles,
Ghita
Unrelated P.S. - The YouTube videos, and the recording parties we did had so many bloopers in them it was ridiculous, there was one point where I was laughing so hard snot flew out my nose. I couldn't stand because my stomach hurt so much and we had to take a 10 minute break. It was a lot of fun. The recordings were even worse. There is one of them that halfway through the question I was reading I burst out laughing and kept reading, and then laughed again, I had to take quite a few breaks and wipe the tears out of my eyes. Thanks to all of you who were there by the way!
Thanks,
"Sparks"
>My Reply:
We get this question a LOT !!
Stephane definitely makes me euphoric. He's got the best drug out there, love. When I look into his eyes, or even just look at him, I have this rush of good feelings that passes like a wave over my whole body, my temperature rises, and then I get goosebumps and then I just want to jump on him. Which happens often. heehee
I trust him, and when trust happens, you feel safe, and when you're safe you get happy, fast. I don't just mean "normal trust", I mean DEEP unconditional trust - the kind women dream about.
I feel I can just be free to be exactly who I am around him. I don't have to worry about anything. Most women are repressed, and know that if they were to let go and be the woman they truly are, the guy would freak and get too insecure. Most women have this complaint about their men, that they cannot HANDLE her.
So now, I'm like a child who has realized that the world is a phenomenally beautiful place and cannot wait to tell others about it.
I mean, when he looks at me, or I look at him (while he's busy working or on the can ;) I think that everything he does is beautiful, even if we are frustrated and stuck in something I have pure faith that everything will be okay. Because everything always turns out okay (well most of the time it turns out perfectly).
I trust him with my life. I fully and completely opened up to him, tell him everything, we have no secrets, we've had *girlfriends* together, went through so many difficulties with family and friends while building IG, we've grown together, and he's the only man in my life.
He knows what I'm feeling when I'm feeling it, and he knows, well, he knows how to treat a woman like a woman. And he has this way of moving slow and not reacting to things, like a bomb could go off and MAYBE he'll blink.
He's helped me blossom into something beautiful and every time I look at him I'm reminded of my own beauty, and I get overwhelmed (the good kind) and just start giggling. Plus he makes me laugh all the time. He grosses me out too. On purpose. Like he'll say the most disgusting things imaginable, deliberately trying to make me vomit. I don't know why I LIKE it so much, maybe Stephane could explain that one!
(Shit, I just asked him to explain it and he said, "Nope!" and then I said, "Pleeeeeease!" and he laughed & said, "There are some mysteries in life that will never be revealed!" and now I feel like screaming I'm so mad, yet at the same time I wanna jump his bones. Now he's joking around saying, "I didn't fuck women up, take it up with Creator. I'm not the programmer, Oh Neurotic female freak, I'm just a dumb wizard running the programs!)
I love us.
Giggles,
Ghita
Unrelated P.S. - The YouTube videos, and the recording parties we did had so many bloopers in them it was ridiculous, there was one point where I was laughing so hard snot flew out my nose. I couldn't stand because my stomach hurt so much and we had to take a 10 minute break. It was a lot of fun. The recordings were even worse. There is one of them that halfway through the question I was reading I burst out laughing and kept reading, and then laughed again, I had to take quite a few breaks and wipe the tears out of my eyes. Thanks to all of you who were there by the way!
Friday, June 1, 2007
"The Mountains. Running Around Naked and Berties"
On Friday Stephane and I went to get an energetic clearing done. It felt sooo good, it's like a huge chakras cleanse on steroids. We had been working super hard and needed a break. "The Teacher" offered to lend us her cottage up north in the Laurentiens, and we jumped right in. It was incredible.
There was no electricity, no cell phone connection; the nearest telephone was in town about 30minutes walk away, a beautiful lake, a nice big stream and nature all around. We saw hawks, ducks, chipmunks, raccoons and we took care of two cats while we were there, an Egyptian Mau (named Diva) and a huge big fat black cat that was 20 years old (named Zeus), who played like a kitten even though he's like 100 years old in cat years. Diva loved me and the Zeus loved Stephane.
"The Teacher" explained that Egyptian Mau's are able to see the spirit world, and used to be used by the ancient Egyptians to see if people were evil,and to help them know if evil spirits were lurking around them.
We had fires every night. One night it got so cold, I was shivering so much that Stephane woke up at like 6am and started a fire for me, it took him almost three hours to get the room hot enough so that I would stop shivering. It was a beautiful thing really :o) He was such a caveman, oooo you had to see it, heehee...
It was just gorgeous; we meditated by the stream, and we went into the forest everyday, collected trees that had fallen in the winter to use for firewood. Stephane had a chainsaw to cut the fallen trees into pieces. Oh my goodness, that thing scared the *insert bad word here* out of me.
Anyway, we now really want to get a place up there. I had totally forgotten what nature is like. I grew up in the country and hadn't gone back for three years, when I was little I would run around our property naked playing with the fairies. When I was up north with Stephane, I totally ran around naked and played with the fairies. I missed it so much! I mean, everyone has to run around naked outside at least once in his or her lifetime, I recommend it. I mean, don't do it in the city because you'd probably be arrested (please check your state laws). There is such a freedom that comes with it. I mean, apart from the mosquito bites on the butt, but still!
Another thing about being up there is the QUIET. There is no traffic, no noise, just birds and some howls of wolves. It is also dark. The darkness envelops you like a huge blanket, it doesn't suffocate you, and it lets you breathe and lets you know it's there. I've never really been afraid of the dark, I find it comforting. There is certain stillness that makes you breathe deeper, and relax into yourself, it gives you the gift of awareness of you body. It makes you feel as though you're alone in the world, a quiet peaceful still world of comforting darkness.
I miss it already, last night I was talking to Stephane about how cool it would be if all the electricity shut off for a little bit; so the world could take a break from it. A little while later we had a power outage in our neighborhood for no apparent reason. It was pretty sweet.
Our cat Berties missed us so much, he was so happy to see us when we got back. He's siamese, so he talks a lot! I wish I could understand cat's meows; it would have been great to understand what he was saying. I mean I know basically what he said "Ghita! Stephane! Where have you guys been? Where?! I missed you so much, I didn't have any wet foodies, and all you gave me was this dry stuff! Rub me! Pet me! Brush me! I missed you sooo much! I saw this huge bird the other day, then I played with the other cats then I chased after a bee!"
He's great. We've been letting him go outside recently, Stephane made this contraption so that he can get into and out of the house by himself. It's awesome. Mind you, I was terrified. I mean, he's my little baby, he comes when I call him, if I ask him if he wants foodies he starts meowing, I tell him I made him his bed and he comes to lie down with me, he is like a dog in a cats body. So letting him outside!? Whew, anyways, it's a real 'let go' lesson I needed to learn. There is that line, "If you truly love them set them free, if they return they're yours". Well I don't know if this applies to all humans, but Berties he knows we feed him the good stuff (specially formulated foodies for siamese), so he comes back, plus he's emotionally insecure and needs his reassurance that all is okay in the world :o) (especially when he comes back from being outside where there is so much action, he needs to know he can come back to a safe place where it's calm and loving).
I like that :o)
Thank you Stephane for taking such good care of me and for loving me so well and so freely.
Yours,
Ghita
Friday, May 25, 2007
"The O.N.S. Field Report"
Thursday Night May 24th
Jungle King and I went out to have a nice supper. We bought a bottle of wine and decided to go to an 'Approtez Votre Vin' place. We kept walking and walking and we couldn't find any, we were tired, we had a long day, and I was in the mood for fish. We finally decided to stop at this great little place whose specialty was fish. The waiter liked us so much he let us have our wine, which was tres cool of him.
(I had my first ever Red Snapper, it was FANTASTIC!)
Over supper we were talking about my game.
Stephane had this great idea, and when he gets an idea everything else disappears, he has so much fun playing around with sentences, he's done so much pickup that he's got all this data in his mind of what to say when to say it, how to say it and things I have never even thought about. I mean you should see him when he's on a writing streak. I could talk to him and talk to him and nothing will go in. He's just so focused on what he is doing, it drives me up the wall sometimes because I will ask him if he's hungry and give him some choices for supper and he won't answer and I'll ask again and he won't answer so I'll go and work on the computer or whatever, and then a little while later he'll be asking me "I'm really hungry! What's for supper! I want to eat now, where have you been?"
Anyway, during these moments of his writing genius I've come to the great conclusion of "make whatever you want for supper, put it in front of him and he'll eat it, do not wait, or else the bear comes out of the cave very hungry"
You don't want to see Stephane hungry, he's sooo cranky, it's kind of cute really, and one of the many reasons I love him so much. He gets cranky when he's hungry, I had to learn a while ago that it wasn't about me, but my timing ;o)
Back to the great idea which we chose to call the "O.N.S." routine.
(One Night Stand Routine)
"Hey I've got a pretty direct question to ask you and if this freaks you out in any way, just give me the finger and I'll leave right away."
(Wait for her to give you the OK)
"Have you ever shared a sexual experience...(wait 4 full seconds, for effect) with a girl? (Giggle)
I wanted to get this right, the voice tone, taking my time to curb every word, the look, the giggle, the pause, the stance, so I practiced it almost fifty times with Stephane correcting me.
I got it down pretty pat, and the next step was what the girls answer would be to my direct question.
If she looked all shocked like a deer in headlights my answer " I can see that I've freaked you out, I'm really sorry, have a great night."
If she smiles and can handle it - awesome... just turn around and say sweetly "My name is Ghita"
So, armed with a new fun routine we could play around with, we left the little resto and proceed to walk down St-Denis and go hunting.
It was really hot and humid out and I was wearing some white short shorts and a little black tank top. We sat down on some steps and drank our water bottles and the first set of the night rolled up. She was with a guy and was wearing a see-through dress and had black lace undies and bra on underneath, at first I was so enthralled with what she was wearing that she passed by and it was only then that I reacted, (I'm like a horny guy checking out babes ;o)
Me: I love your dress!
Her: I love your outfit!
M: Thank you!
M: How long have you two been together?
H: We're not!
M: Great! He doesn't mind then if I pick you up?
H: (laughing) NO!
M: Great so let's go grab a drink!
H: I cannot!
M: Too bad for you!
H: Some other time?
M: No! Now or never...
H: I'm so sorry!
M: It's okay, I never liked you anyway!
H: Awe!
The line "I never liked you anyway" is thanks to Stephane, cause I was kind of stuck because this girl really liked me, so thank you Stephane for helping me become a better PUA.
We saw a bar across the street that looked quite promising from the outside so we decided to go and check it out. We walked in and paid 5$ each to get in, the girl who stamps your hand was the cutest girl in sight, so this was the second set of the evening.
M: Hey, I've got a pretty direct question to ask you, and tell me if this freaks you out or anything, just give me the finger and I'll leave.
H: Okay (smiling sweetly)
M: I've always wanted to have a one-night stand...(I didn't finish the routine when she answered right away)
H: (real bitchy like) No. Not interested.
M: Okay, I can see that I've weirded you out, I'm really sorry have a great night. (I really meant it too)
I went to see Stephane and told him that she was freaked out, he had been watching and was all proud of me that I had handled her snappiness so well, like my body language didn't even flinch, I was pretty pleased myself :o)
We went to the back of the bar, because the front area was a total sausage party, when we got to the back we were sadly disappointed, it was a sausage party back there too. So I said to Stephane, "Why don't I go back to the girl and ask for a refund?" He said laughing, yeah!
So I went up to her and said, " Can I have a refund? I'm leaving, it's too dead here."
She was really embarrassed about being so snappy with me, I was really considerate of her feelings, and she obviously felt bad about her lack of emotional maturity, so she gave me the money back (a no-no in bars/clubs) and we left.
Sweeeeet! I'm as happy as a pigeon that just shat on McD's golden arches.
So, we continue down the street and see two girls that look like they might be dating. Now whenever I see two girls that might be dating I always want to ask them how they met. So we stopped to talk to them, they were cool, Stephane was so funny, he was telling one of them how often girls treat him like a piece of meat and how annoying it was, and the girl was like, 'oh my, really? That is so bad!"
hahahahaha... we told them that we'd see them at the Tam tams, this usually happens a lot, we see people on the street and talk to them and then one day they pop up somewhere and they usually say "Oh my god! You sooo made my night when you talked to me on the street! You're so awesome!" which is great, but most of the time I have to figure out when I met them what their name is, this is the funny part about pickup, they remember YOU really well, but you have no idea who they are :o)
We ran a few other sets that night but it became kind of dead towards the end. We ran into some people that we knew, which is always a funny experience. They find out what we do and kinda freak out a little bit, and then get slightly embarrassed and then interested. We sat down with them at their table on the terrace on Prince Arthur Street. Behind us there was a bar and there was this super cute girl in short shorts standing there with two guys.
Stephane said to me "Go. She has extremely high buying temperature. Go." I looked over at the girl and was like, "She does?" (I can never really spot it, note to self: work on spotting HBT) Now Stephane rolls his eyes and looks at me in the way that says, "Ghita, I know what I'm doing." hahahaha, so I got up and walked over to her and said, "Those are fucking cute short shorts."
She turns around and almost jumps into my arms, I swear to god. It was fantastic. She's like oh my god! You are so fucking hot! I said Thank you, so are you.
H: What's you name?
M: Ghita.. What’s yours?
H: *Insert forgotten name here*
H: Are you here? (At the bar she was at)
M: No, with friends over there. I had to come over though and pick you up, you're too cute to resist. We're like twins with these shorts.
H: Oh! You're fucking awesome! I love you!
(I love it when girls profess their love for me within a few seconds of meeting me, lets me know what we're dealing with)
M: well I love you too. We'd better hug and cuddle again then!
(Hugging)
All of a sudden her two guy friends get all stupid and start surrounding us and asking if they can take freakin' pictures with their phone. (I thought they were cool cause they left us alone, but it turned out they're just horny geek boys)
I said no. Then they asked if I had a boyfriend, I said I'm a lesbian with one exception; Stephane (I pointed to where he was sitting) And I said do you mind if I talk to your friend? They said no, but then they asked if they could take pictures AGAIN, I said no, and turned to the girl and told her," You're fucking awesome, and I'd love to hook up with you but your friends are too much, sorry babe, have a great night."
She was really apologetic, I told her not to worry about it and that she could give me a call, I gave her my card and left.
I didn't know that Stephane had told everyone at our table to look at me do pickup. They had that shocked look on their faces like, "holy smokes I cannot believe you just did that."
When I first started pickup it was such a struggle to even talk to a girl so I know how they felt, it's like socially unacceptable to go up to someone and talk to them. People are scared of other people, and especially of disapproval, so they act like real idiots.
Well they all decided to head on up St-Laurent and one of the guys that was with us was all gung-ho about pickup, I thought he was gay at first to tell you the truth. Very feminine, but as we were walking up the street, he was almost taking notes. We ran quite a few street sets. One of the last ones of the night were two lesbians, Stephane had a lot of fun with them and at the end of it they both loved him - actually one loved him but wanted him to leave because her girlfriend was falling for him too hard, too quickly. Either way, it's beautiful to see Stephane in his element, surrounded by beauties that are giggling and touching him... We were really tired and just decided to go home and sleep, which was great. It's a beautiful thing doing pickup with the one you love and then going home with them and talking about all the things that happened while we were out.
We will be working on the ONS routine a lot more this summer, plus we have Stephane's brain which is jam-packed full of goodies! Whooo-hoo!
From Montreal with love,
Ghita
Jungle King and I went out to have a nice supper. We bought a bottle of wine and decided to go to an 'Approtez Votre Vin' place. We kept walking and walking and we couldn't find any, we were tired, we had a long day, and I was in the mood for fish. We finally decided to stop at this great little place whose specialty was fish. The waiter liked us so much he let us have our wine, which was tres cool of him.
(I had my first ever Red Snapper, it was FANTASTIC!)
Over supper we were talking about my game.
Stephane had this great idea, and when he gets an idea everything else disappears, he has so much fun playing around with sentences, he's done so much pickup that he's got all this data in his mind of what to say when to say it, how to say it and things I have never even thought about. I mean you should see him when he's on a writing streak. I could talk to him and talk to him and nothing will go in. He's just so focused on what he is doing, it drives me up the wall sometimes because I will ask him if he's hungry and give him some choices for supper and he won't answer and I'll ask again and he won't answer so I'll go and work on the computer or whatever, and then a little while later he'll be asking me "I'm really hungry! What's for supper! I want to eat now, where have you been?"
Anyway, during these moments of his writing genius I've come to the great conclusion of "make whatever you want for supper, put it in front of him and he'll eat it, do not wait, or else the bear comes out of the cave very hungry"
You don't want to see Stephane hungry, he's sooo cranky, it's kind of cute really, and one of the many reasons I love him so much. He gets cranky when he's hungry, I had to learn a while ago that it wasn't about me, but my timing ;o)
Back to the great idea which we chose to call the "O.N.S." routine.
(One Night Stand Routine)
"Hey I've got a pretty direct question to ask you and if this freaks you out in any way, just give me the finger and I'll leave right away."
(Wait for her to give you the OK)
"Have you ever shared a sexual experience...(wait 4 full seconds, for effect) with a girl? (Giggle)
I wanted to get this right, the voice tone, taking my time to curb every word, the look, the giggle, the pause, the stance, so I practiced it almost fifty times with Stephane correcting me.
I got it down pretty pat, and the next step was what the girls answer would be to my direct question.
If she looked all shocked like a deer in headlights my answer " I can see that I've freaked you out, I'm really sorry, have a great night."
If she smiles and can handle it - awesome... just turn around and say sweetly "My name is Ghita"
So, armed with a new fun routine we could play around with, we left the little resto and proceed to walk down St-Denis and go hunting.
It was really hot and humid out and I was wearing some white short shorts and a little black tank top. We sat down on some steps and drank our water bottles and the first set of the night rolled up. She was with a guy and was wearing a see-through dress and had black lace undies and bra on underneath, at first I was so enthralled with what she was wearing that she passed by and it was only then that I reacted, (I'm like a horny guy checking out babes ;o)
Me: I love your dress!
Her: I love your outfit!
M: Thank you!
M: How long have you two been together?
H: We're not!
M: Great! He doesn't mind then if I pick you up?
H: (laughing) NO!
M: Great so let's go grab a drink!
H: I cannot!
M: Too bad for you!
H: Some other time?
M: No! Now or never...
H: I'm so sorry!
M: It's okay, I never liked you anyway!
H: Awe!
The line "I never liked you anyway" is thanks to Stephane, cause I was kind of stuck because this girl really liked me, so thank you Stephane for helping me become a better PUA.
We saw a bar across the street that looked quite promising from the outside so we decided to go and check it out. We walked in and paid 5$ each to get in, the girl who stamps your hand was the cutest girl in sight, so this was the second set of the evening.
M: Hey, I've got a pretty direct question to ask you, and tell me if this freaks you out or anything, just give me the finger and I'll leave.
H: Okay (smiling sweetly)
M: I've always wanted to have a one-night stand...(I didn't finish the routine when she answered right away)
H: (real bitchy like) No. Not interested.
M: Okay, I can see that I've weirded you out, I'm really sorry have a great night. (I really meant it too)
I went to see Stephane and told him that she was freaked out, he had been watching and was all proud of me that I had handled her snappiness so well, like my body language didn't even flinch, I was pretty pleased myself :o)
We went to the back of the bar, because the front area was a total sausage party, when we got to the back we were sadly disappointed, it was a sausage party back there too. So I said to Stephane, "Why don't I go back to the girl and ask for a refund?" He said laughing, yeah!
So I went up to her and said, " Can I have a refund? I'm leaving, it's too dead here."
She was really embarrassed about being so snappy with me, I was really considerate of her feelings, and she obviously felt bad about her lack of emotional maturity, so she gave me the money back (a no-no in bars/clubs) and we left.
Sweeeeet! I'm as happy as a pigeon that just shat on McD's golden arches.
So, we continue down the street and see two girls that look like they might be dating. Now whenever I see two girls that might be dating I always want to ask them how they met. So we stopped to talk to them, they were cool, Stephane was so funny, he was telling one of them how often girls treat him like a piece of meat and how annoying it was, and the girl was like, 'oh my, really? That is so bad!"
hahahahaha... we told them that we'd see them at the Tam tams, this usually happens a lot, we see people on the street and talk to them and then one day they pop up somewhere and they usually say "Oh my god! You sooo made my night when you talked to me on the street! You're so awesome!" which is great, but most of the time I have to figure out when I met them what their name is, this is the funny part about pickup, they remember YOU really well, but you have no idea who they are :o)
We ran a few other sets that night but it became kind of dead towards the end. We ran into some people that we knew, which is always a funny experience. They find out what we do and kinda freak out a little bit, and then get slightly embarrassed and then interested. We sat down with them at their table on the terrace on Prince Arthur Street. Behind us there was a bar and there was this super cute girl in short shorts standing there with two guys.
Stephane said to me "Go. She has extremely high buying temperature. Go." I looked over at the girl and was like, "She does?" (I can never really spot it, note to self: work on spotting HBT) Now Stephane rolls his eyes and looks at me in the way that says, "Ghita, I know what I'm doing." hahahaha, so I got up and walked over to her and said, "Those are fucking cute short shorts."
She turns around and almost jumps into my arms, I swear to god. It was fantastic. She's like oh my god! You are so fucking hot! I said Thank you, so are you.
H: What's you name?
M: Ghita.. What’s yours?
H: *Insert forgotten name here*
H: Are you here? (At the bar she was at)
M: No, with friends over there. I had to come over though and pick you up, you're too cute to resist. We're like twins with these shorts.
H: Oh! You're fucking awesome! I love you!
(I love it when girls profess their love for me within a few seconds of meeting me, lets me know what we're dealing with)
M: well I love you too. We'd better hug and cuddle again then!
(Hugging)
All of a sudden her two guy friends get all stupid and start surrounding us and asking if they can take freakin' pictures with their phone. (I thought they were cool cause they left us alone, but it turned out they're just horny geek boys)
I said no. Then they asked if I had a boyfriend, I said I'm a lesbian with one exception; Stephane (I pointed to where he was sitting) And I said do you mind if I talk to your friend? They said no, but then they asked if they could take pictures AGAIN, I said no, and turned to the girl and told her," You're fucking awesome, and I'd love to hook up with you but your friends are too much, sorry babe, have a great night."
She was really apologetic, I told her not to worry about it and that she could give me a call, I gave her my card and left.
I didn't know that Stephane had told everyone at our table to look at me do pickup. They had that shocked look on their faces like, "holy smokes I cannot believe you just did that."
When I first started pickup it was such a struggle to even talk to a girl so I know how they felt, it's like socially unacceptable to go up to someone and talk to them. People are scared of other people, and especially of disapproval, so they act like real idiots.
Well they all decided to head on up St-Laurent and one of the guys that was with us was all gung-ho about pickup, I thought he was gay at first to tell you the truth. Very feminine, but as we were walking up the street, he was almost taking notes. We ran quite a few street sets. One of the last ones of the night were two lesbians, Stephane had a lot of fun with them and at the end of it they both loved him - actually one loved him but wanted him to leave because her girlfriend was falling for him too hard, too quickly. Either way, it's beautiful to see Stephane in his element, surrounded by beauties that are giggling and touching him... We were really tired and just decided to go home and sleep, which was great. It's a beautiful thing doing pickup with the one you love and then going home with them and talking about all the things that happened while we were out.
We will be working on the ONS routine a lot more this summer, plus we have Stephane's brain which is jam-packed full of goodies! Whooo-hoo!
From Montreal with love,
Ghita
Thursday, May 24, 2007
"Letter From A Pink-Haired Girl"
Letter from a girl:
helloo there beautiful!!
i hope u remember our encounter..it made my night...i dont remember the name of the bar but i am the girl with the pink tiara, lip ring, and pink hair u met at the end of april.
i was just dropping a line...finally got to check out ideagasms.net and i love it..signed up for the newsletter and i'm looking forward to spicing up my love life!
i also wanted to say thank you. i posted a picture of us on facebook, quoting our meeting and your website in the caption. well, my mother had also heard of ideagasms, and when she saw the site she decided to check it out...and after reading through your blog, she came across the entry describing me and our encounter. needless to say, a fair amount of awkwardness on my part has been allieviated, as my mother didn't know i'm bisexual, and now i dont need to tell her!! [she also mentioned, before i checked out the blog, how she doesnt care what her daughter does blahblah..much more accepting than i thought she'd be] just random happy thing of the day..wanted to share it with you.
hopefully we can stay in touch and get together next time i'm in montreal...
giggles&kisses
xo
ps i've attached a picture of us from that night.
Hey Giggles&Kisses,
Of course I remember you, you made my night as well, I had a fantastic time talking to you and you gave me so much good energy.. actively picking up chicks can get discouraging at times, but there are cool girls out there (like you) that are proud of their sexuality and are more interesting to talk to than a piece of furniture :o)
So thank you for writing, you made my day :o)
Funny, I have the same picture of us, we must have shot it at exactly the same time, and I do not mind at all that you posted it on facebook, your bringing more people to ideaGasms and helping out a number of people who happen to pass by that pic and see the caption. (I have a facebook account so you can add me)
I'm surprised that your mother heard about IG, it's a small world indeed. And I'm also glad to hear that she didn't have a shit fit when she found out you're bisexual, and is actually cool about it. You must have had a great weight lifted off your shoulders, I felt that way when I told my mom, but she didn't exactly take it very well... (she freaked, lol)
It's too bad you didn't meet Stephane when you were here, so the next time you come to Montreal we'll hang out for sure. Summertime is pretty crazy around here, it's boiling hot today but beautiful and everyone is out, plus it's Thursday so it'll be pretty nuts downtown. When you come down we'll teach you some pickup :o)
kisses 'n' giggles to you too, and much love,
Ghita
helloo there beautiful!!
i hope u remember our encounter..it made my night...i dont remember the name of the bar but i am the girl with the pink tiara, lip ring, and pink hair u met at the end of april.
i was just dropping a line...finally got to check out ideagasms.net and i love it..signed up for the newsletter and i'm looking forward to spicing up my love life!
i also wanted to say thank you. i posted a picture of us on facebook, quoting our meeting and your website in the caption. well, my mother had also heard of ideagasms, and when she saw the site she decided to check it out...and after reading through your blog, she came across the entry describing me and our encounter. needless to say, a fair amount of awkwardness on my part has been allieviated, as my mother didn't know i'm bisexual, and now i dont need to tell her!! [she also mentioned, before i checked out the blog, how she doesnt care what her daughter does blahblah..much more accepting than i thought she'd be] just random happy thing of the day..wanted to share it with you.
hopefully we can stay in touch and get together next time i'm in montreal...
giggles&kisses
xo
ps i've attached a picture of us from that night.
Hey Giggles&Kisses,
Of course I remember you, you made my night as well, I had a fantastic time talking to you and you gave me so much good energy.. actively picking up chicks can get discouraging at times, but there are cool girls out there (like you) that are proud of their sexuality and are more interesting to talk to than a piece of furniture :o)
So thank you for writing, you made my day :o)
Funny, I have the same picture of us, we must have shot it at exactly the same time, and I do not mind at all that you posted it on facebook, your bringing more people to ideaGasms and helping out a number of people who happen to pass by that pic and see the caption. (I have a facebook account so you can add me)
I'm surprised that your mother heard about IG, it's a small world indeed. And I'm also glad to hear that she didn't have a shit fit when she found out you're bisexual, and is actually cool about it. You must have had a great weight lifted off your shoulders, I felt that way when I told my mom, but she didn't exactly take it very well... (she freaked, lol)
It's too bad you didn't meet Stephane when you were here, so the next time you come to Montreal we'll hang out for sure. Summertime is pretty crazy around here, it's boiling hot today but beautiful and everyone is out, plus it's Thursday so it'll be pretty nuts downtown. When you come down we'll teach you some pickup :o)
kisses 'n' giggles to you too, and much love,
Ghita
Wednesday, May 23, 2007
"Stephane Fed Me Water With An Eye-Dropper"
This past weekend my face looked like a chipmunk that had eaten way too many nuts. I got my wisdom teeth pulled out on Thursday, and was unable to do or eat much of anything. It was kind of like a vacation thanks to the painkillers, but I'm so tired of soup and yoghurt and putting carrots in the blender that I would do anything to each something crunchy.
Stephane was wonderful to me while I was going through this past weekend. He took care of me so well. He went out and bought all kinds of organic yoghurt, pastas, soft cheeses, jello and organic soups for me. One of the soups was so delicious, but I puked in up into the sink. But it was so good that I would actually go out and buy it again even though I puked it up. Now you know it's good soup if you can puke it up and still want more.
Stephane bought this nanosilver stuff that heals wounds and helps the body to heal, plus he bought this biophoton water stuff. He was feeding me this super healthy water with nano in it with an eyedropper while he was holding me on the couch with our cat Berties.
I couldn't talk all weekend, and for those of you who know me and have met me, you'll know that this is a slightly difficult task for me to accomplish, but by virtue of my mouth being swollen almost shut it proved to be quite easy in the end for me to be quiet. Plus it hurt.
I got frustrated a lot, but Stephane was there every minute I needed him. We got the computer out in the living room so that I could communicate with him with words instead of weird gestures and humming noises with grunts every now and then. He would laugh and I would try and laugh and then I would be in pain again. And he would laugh some more. Then I would get hiccups.
When I get hiccups, I get some serious hiccups, I double over in pain from them, I don't know why they hurt so much, and why I get them so often but holy smokes are they ever crazy! My trick to get rid of them is to take a glass of water and a sharp knife and stick the knife in a glass of water and spin it clockwise really fast until I get a good swirl going on, then I put the end on the knife (not the sharp part) on my nose and chug the whole thing down. I got the hiccups a lot this past weekend. It was bloody annoying... But Stephane was always there for me.
He really is wonderful...*sigh* he even bought me sorbet and organic soy cream bars... sickeningly sweet and thoughtful he is indeed. Most people know him as this tough guy, but he's just a big teddy. :o) (don't tell him I told ya ;o)
Anyways, I don't like being sick because then all this 'stuff' that I have to do piles up into little mounds around the house... So I know that when I get better I'm going to have a lot of work to do... So I tried to sneak in a little work here and there while Stephane wasn't watching, but then he would catch me working and beat me up and tie me to the couch. no no he didn't do that! That was a joke :o) kind of, heehee, you'll never know!
Anyways I'm super glad to be back in tip-top shape. I'm still a bit swollen in the mouth but it's going down a whole bunch. So that is the update for all of you, I wanted to let you know that Stephane is fantastically wonderfully amazing and that yours truly is healing just fine thanks to Stephane..
much love
Ghita
Stephane was wonderful to me while I was going through this past weekend. He took care of me so well. He went out and bought all kinds of organic yoghurt, pastas, soft cheeses, jello and organic soups for me. One of the soups was so delicious, but I puked in up into the sink. But it was so good that I would actually go out and buy it again even though I puked it up. Now you know it's good soup if you can puke it up and still want more.
Stephane bought this nanosilver stuff that heals wounds and helps the body to heal, plus he bought this biophoton water stuff. He was feeding me this super healthy water with nano in it with an eyedropper while he was holding me on the couch with our cat Berties.
I couldn't talk all weekend, and for those of you who know me and have met me, you'll know that this is a slightly difficult task for me to accomplish, but by virtue of my mouth being swollen almost shut it proved to be quite easy in the end for me to be quiet. Plus it hurt.
I got frustrated a lot, but Stephane was there every minute I needed him. We got the computer out in the living room so that I could communicate with him with words instead of weird gestures and humming noises with grunts every now and then. He would laugh and I would try and laugh and then I would be in pain again. And he would laugh some more. Then I would get hiccups.
When I get hiccups, I get some serious hiccups, I double over in pain from them, I don't know why they hurt so much, and why I get them so often but holy smokes are they ever crazy! My trick to get rid of them is to take a glass of water and a sharp knife and stick the knife in a glass of water and spin it clockwise really fast until I get a good swirl going on, then I put the end on the knife (not the sharp part) on my nose and chug the whole thing down. I got the hiccups a lot this past weekend. It was bloody annoying... But Stephane was always there for me.
He really is wonderful...*sigh* he even bought me sorbet and organic soy cream bars... sickeningly sweet and thoughtful he is indeed. Most people know him as this tough guy, but he's just a big teddy. :o) (don't tell him I told ya ;o)
Anyways, I don't like being sick because then all this 'stuff' that I have to do piles up into little mounds around the house... So I know that when I get better I'm going to have a lot of work to do... So I tried to sneak in a little work here and there while Stephane wasn't watching, but then he would catch me working and beat me up and tie me to the couch. no no he didn't do that! That was a joke :o) kind of, heehee, you'll never know!
Anyways I'm super glad to be back in tip-top shape. I'm still a bit swollen in the mouth but it's going down a whole bunch. So that is the update for all of you, I wanted to let you know that Stephane is fantastically wonderfully amazing and that yours truly is healing just fine thanks to Stephane..
much love
Ghita
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
"I Miss My Girlfriends"
Whew! It's been quite a week, a lot of things are happening over here at the IG headquarters! Spring has put things into full swing for us, working hard, eating right, exercise, and lots of love. I had ballet class today and it was fantastic, I really love it, and we have a small class which is great for reasons I'm sure you are all aware of :o) I have ballet jazz tomorrow, my teacher is fantastic and absolutely nuts, which is great for me. She knows I do ballet so she likes to push me extra hard during stretches, and let me tell you Stephane is not complaining one bit ;o)
We've been doing some IG research in the form of watching the L-word, the character Shane is quite a RockStar, and plus there is a sex scene in every episode (sweet!) Which is fantastic for me, my late game has needed a bit of work, so watching the show has made a positive impact on me. As a bonus there are a bunch of pointers that needed to be re-affirmed in my heart and brain. There is this one sex scene where you get the vibe from both girls that 'it is on', and one of them resists slightly but then the other just keeps it up and volia! Sometimes resistance just means give me more baby...
I'm getting my wisdom teeth pulled out on Thursday, my mouth is apparently not big enough...Jungle King would say otherwise though, mouhahaha!
I wanted to say 'hi' to my semi-platonic girlfriends located in: France, San Francisco, Los Angeles, China and Mexico, I miss you all so much and bring me back some sand.
I love you so much
Ghita
We've been doing some IG research in the form of watching the L-word, the character Shane is quite a RockStar, and plus there is a sex scene in every episode (sweet!) Which is fantastic for me, my late game has needed a bit of work, so watching the show has made a positive impact on me. As a bonus there are a bunch of pointers that needed to be re-affirmed in my heart and brain. There is this one sex scene where you get the vibe from both girls that 'it is on', and one of them resists slightly but then the other just keeps it up and volia! Sometimes resistance just means give me more baby...
I'm getting my wisdom teeth pulled out on Thursday, my mouth is apparently not big enough...Jungle King would say otherwise though, mouhahaha!
I wanted to say 'hi' to my semi-platonic girlfriends located in: France, San Francisco, Los Angeles, China and Mexico, I miss you all so much and bring me back some sand.
I love you so much
Ghita
Wednesday, May 9, 2007
"Day Game is NOT Night Game"
Note to Self- Day Game is not Night Game. There is no need to yell and throw a bunch of laughs her way and do all the crazy get her attention first. It's the daytime, I can take things slow, be less reaction seeking and breathe a lot more. No need to take out the ball of twine, pet butterflies and chocolate lollipops to tickle her fancy
We went out to get some sunshine and take a stroll down Mont-Royal Street. We walked by this clothing store and I saw the outline of a Barbie doll looking girl. Tres cute. We walked by and I told Stephane, and he said why don't you go back and talk to her?
So I did. I walked in (she had her back turned, I hadn't seen her face yet) and said, "Has anyone ever told you that you look like a Barbie Doll?"
It not the best opener to use, but she was super nice and said ohmygod thank you. Took me totally of guard, she was NICE! I got super nervous and as totally un-calibrated as I was told her she had great squirter dimples and she laughed and then I ran out the door with my tail between my legs...
I had totally forgotten the golden rule.
You are truly loved. (And who cares what they think)
You know when women have the waves of emotion? That was me today; I was on roller coaster ride of ups and downs. At least I was aware of it whew! I mean, I was walking before Stephane and DragonButterDave and totally in my head going through all the little things that I can do the next time I encounter a situation like the one I was in today.
Things to remember Ghita: Slow Down. It’s not a race between the tortoise and the hair, being fastest doesn't always mean you'll get there faster, remember the tortoise wins in the end?
When I'm talking to a girl, ESPECIALLY DURING THE DAY! Just ask the regular questions. You don't have to 'isolate the target and caveman her into an area of XYZ with this tactic and amogging this dude and jumping here and climbing up a tree like Dragon Butter Dave did today...'
Anyway, I've missed the spring and what it brings. It brings new life, new life for the plants and new life for me. It's a time for me to grow emotionally, perfect my new learning’s of all the past year, and see my pickup and love of women flower. It's time to let go of the insecurity, it's time for me to blossom, to become a beautiful bisexual women, to grow into my greatness, I mean, don't you know who I am?
(Holy Smokes is learning pickup ever hard on the ego. GOD I LOVE IT! When your green you grow when you're ripe you rot baby...)
Thanks for being the with me Stephane
I love you.
Ghita
We went out to get some sunshine and take a stroll down Mont-Royal Street. We walked by this clothing store and I saw the outline of a Barbie doll looking girl. Tres cute. We walked by and I told Stephane, and he said why don't you go back and talk to her?
So I did. I walked in (she had her back turned, I hadn't seen her face yet) and said, "Has anyone ever told you that you look like a Barbie Doll?"
It not the best opener to use, but she was super nice and said ohmygod thank you. Took me totally of guard, she was NICE! I got super nervous and as totally un-calibrated as I was told her she had great squirter dimples and she laughed and then I ran out the door with my tail between my legs...
I had totally forgotten the golden rule.
You are truly loved. (And who cares what they think)
You know when women have the waves of emotion? That was me today; I was on roller coaster ride of ups and downs. At least I was aware of it whew! I mean, I was walking before Stephane and DragonButterDave and totally in my head going through all the little things that I can do the next time I encounter a situation like the one I was in today.
Things to remember Ghita: Slow Down. It’s not a race between the tortoise and the hair, being fastest doesn't always mean you'll get there faster, remember the tortoise wins in the end?
When I'm talking to a girl, ESPECIALLY DURING THE DAY! Just ask the regular questions. You don't have to 'isolate the target and caveman her into an area of XYZ with this tactic and amogging this dude and jumping here and climbing up a tree like Dragon Butter Dave did today...'
Anyway, I've missed the spring and what it brings. It brings new life, new life for the plants and new life for me. It's a time for me to grow emotionally, perfect my new learning’s of all the past year, and see my pickup and love of women flower. It's time to let go of the insecurity, it's time for me to blossom, to become a beautiful bisexual women, to grow into my greatness, I mean, don't you know who I am?
(Holy Smokes is learning pickup ever hard on the ego. GOD I LOVE IT! When your green you grow when you're ripe you rot baby...)
Thanks for being the with me Stephane
I love you.
Ghita
Saturday, April 28, 2007
"Working Hard On My Game"
We went out last night. I had my tasks, more kino as soon as you open, (girls can get away with sooooo much stuff) walk with a straight spine, and use my natural voice.
Funny thing, about the voice, is that I learnt a while back that people wouldn't listen to a little meek voice saying "hello, um, how are you?"
They will listen to "HEY! YOU LOOK LIKE A DORK, WHATS YOUR NAME? I LIKE FLOWERS, YOU WANT SOME CHOCOLATE? YEAH YOU'RE AWESOME! Or whatever would come out of my mouth. It's kind of funny if you're watching me in action, you see this little girl (me) yelling at a bunch of women, "WHAT? YOU'RE RIGHT BOOB IS BIGGER THAN YOUR LEFT!? NO WAY!? SO IS MINE! WE"RE LIKE TWINS!"
Anyways, so we went out and I spoke like myself. Whoa baby, it worked. The thing was that I needed to learn how to get someone's attention in the beginning; to step out of my uber dork cannot approach to save my life phase. But now that I have graduated to dork, I can start talking like I do when Stephane and I are together. Using my natural voice.
So we walked into the bar, and the first girl I see that I liked, I went up to her, (She was super tall and looked like a model, tres tres cute) and just looked at her and said "Hey" I didn't spit any super game or anything, just went up to her and started touching her and giving her hugs and then kissed her. But then her guy friends came over and started to do stupid shit. So I turned to her and said, "look, I really like you, and we'll get together this week. Your friends are kind of annoying (to which she said sorry, I know) and if we exchange numbers you're sure you'll remember me when we talk tomorrow? Or are you too drunk?" She said" No no no! I will remember! I'm NOT too drunk!"
So we exchanged numbers, and I will give her a call later today, don't know where it will go but I learnt a lot of new things while in that set. After ejecting, I turned around to the next girl I could find that I was attracted to. Kino, Marilyn Monroe style, then told her friend that she was cute, (British accent, and her name was Domino) and she got all uptight and said "I don't like women." So I turned to the friend and said, "wow! Is she always like this? She's really homophobic? No no, don't apologize for her, it's okay, I like you though, I have some one you should meet." I brought her over to Stephane, but on the way there I ran into the first girl, (model hot girl) and her attraction for me sparked sky high because she saw me with this other girl.
Lesson learnt. Don't count your girls before they’re in your bed and into your hearts. (This particular one has taken quite a while; I used to just spend THE WHOLE NIGHT with one girl that didn't fully qualify.)
Anyways, the model girl touched me and kissed me goodnight and make all kinds of lovey-dovey sweetness call me stuff. Was nice, and especially nice while she was doing this in front of the other girl. So model girl left. And then I started working on girl number two. Started running sets with her, and teaching her how to be a good girl, lol, then I introduced her to Stephane and he took off like a rocket.
Downstairs I spotted two HOT girls. Looked like they had just stepped out of a magazine, totally rockin', but not my total cup of tea due to the fact that they were kind of boring, they were they’re the type of girls that are expecting to be entertained, and not really contributing anything to the conversation. So I grabbed them both by the hands and flung them up the stairs to the bar where they ordered drinks, and I started talking to another girl at the bar. I was on fire!
Anyway, I met a girl who was deaf, which was great because I have a pen and paper with me at all times, so we had a nice little conversation via writing. She was sweet and totally happy that I had a pen and paper. Turns out most people had tried talking to her and then kind of gave up because she signs, and well most people cannot. Gave her my e-mail address and the ideaGasms website :o)
Then flew around the bar with Stephane opening everyone everywhere. We had a blast.
The last girl I opened that night was one of the coolest chicks. She was sitting down with a tiara on and she had pink hair and a little piercing on her face, but a super cute one. I walked directly up to her, sat down told her I had only a second but that I wanted to know something. I asked her flat out if she was bisexual. She almost cried, (she had those big doe eyes) and she almost screamed YES! So I pummeled her with ideaGasms consciousness... It was a beautiful thing. Turns out she was with a bunch of guys and some other guy had hit on her and all of her guy friends had decided to play hero and go beat him up. So they left her alone to the mercy of me. Mouahahahah!
Anyways, it was a beautiful way to end the night.
I went downstairs and grabbed Suicide Bomber and DragonButterDave who were making' a ruckus all over the place. David is hilarious and a tornado. Meanwhile SB was hugging everything in sight. They make a great team. Stephane grabbed some hot tall blond girl and orchestrated a whole pick-up for/with me. It was going really well. Laughing, giggling, touching, having a well rounded good time. Then her guy friend came along and almost yelled at her for being with us, (he wanted to go eat or something) he obviously did not approve of her being happy, all of a sudden she turned to Stephane and said, "Are you some porno director?”
Funny how people will suddenly turn around and be really snotty after someone disapproves of them. She really liked us too, but because her friend didn’t too bad so sad! :o) Too bad for her, she didn’t really know who we were, heehee….
Anyways, that was the fun and giggles of the evening in a nutshell. There will be more to come!
Loves and giggles and licks
Ghita
Funny thing, about the voice, is that I learnt a while back that people wouldn't listen to a little meek voice saying "hello, um, how are you?"
They will listen to "HEY! YOU LOOK LIKE A DORK, WHATS YOUR NAME? I LIKE FLOWERS, YOU WANT SOME CHOCOLATE? YEAH YOU'RE AWESOME! Or whatever would come out of my mouth. It's kind of funny if you're watching me in action, you see this little girl (me) yelling at a bunch of women, "WHAT? YOU'RE RIGHT BOOB IS BIGGER THAN YOUR LEFT!? NO WAY!? SO IS MINE! WE"RE LIKE TWINS!"
Anyways, so we went out and I spoke like myself. Whoa baby, it worked. The thing was that I needed to learn how to get someone's attention in the beginning; to step out of my uber dork cannot approach to save my life phase. But now that I have graduated to dork, I can start talking like I do when Stephane and I are together. Using my natural voice.
So we walked into the bar, and the first girl I see that I liked, I went up to her, (She was super tall and looked like a model, tres tres cute) and just looked at her and said "Hey" I didn't spit any super game or anything, just went up to her and started touching her and giving her hugs and then kissed her. But then her guy friends came over and started to do stupid shit. So I turned to her and said, "look, I really like you, and we'll get together this week. Your friends are kind of annoying (to which she said sorry, I know) and if we exchange numbers you're sure you'll remember me when we talk tomorrow? Or are you too drunk?" She said" No no no! I will remember! I'm NOT too drunk!"
So we exchanged numbers, and I will give her a call later today, don't know where it will go but I learnt a lot of new things while in that set. After ejecting, I turned around to the next girl I could find that I was attracted to. Kino, Marilyn Monroe style, then told her friend that she was cute, (British accent, and her name was Domino) and she got all uptight and said "I don't like women." So I turned to the friend and said, "wow! Is she always like this? She's really homophobic? No no, don't apologize for her, it's okay, I like you though, I have some one you should meet." I brought her over to Stephane, but on the way there I ran into the first girl, (model hot girl) and her attraction for me sparked sky high because she saw me with this other girl.
Lesson learnt. Don't count your girls before they’re in your bed and into your hearts. (This particular one has taken quite a while; I used to just spend THE WHOLE NIGHT with one girl that didn't fully qualify.)
Anyways, the model girl touched me and kissed me goodnight and make all kinds of lovey-dovey sweetness call me stuff. Was nice, and especially nice while she was doing this in front of the other girl. So model girl left. And then I started working on girl number two. Started running sets with her, and teaching her how to be a good girl, lol, then I introduced her to Stephane and he took off like a rocket.
Downstairs I spotted two HOT girls. Looked like they had just stepped out of a magazine, totally rockin', but not my total cup of tea due to the fact that they were kind of boring, they were they’re the type of girls that are expecting to be entertained, and not really contributing anything to the conversation. So I grabbed them both by the hands and flung them up the stairs to the bar where they ordered drinks, and I started talking to another girl at the bar. I was on fire!
Anyway, I met a girl who was deaf, which was great because I have a pen and paper with me at all times, so we had a nice little conversation via writing. She was sweet and totally happy that I had a pen and paper. Turns out most people had tried talking to her and then kind of gave up because she signs, and well most people cannot. Gave her my e-mail address and the ideaGasms website :o)
Then flew around the bar with Stephane opening everyone everywhere. We had a blast.
The last girl I opened that night was one of the coolest chicks. She was sitting down with a tiara on and she had pink hair and a little piercing on her face, but a super cute one. I walked directly up to her, sat down told her I had only a second but that I wanted to know something. I asked her flat out if she was bisexual. She almost cried, (she had those big doe eyes) and she almost screamed YES! So I pummeled her with ideaGasms consciousness... It was a beautiful thing. Turns out she was with a bunch of guys and some other guy had hit on her and all of her guy friends had decided to play hero and go beat him up. So they left her alone to the mercy of me. Mouahahahah!
Anyways, it was a beautiful way to end the night.
I went downstairs and grabbed Suicide Bomber and DragonButterDave who were making' a ruckus all over the place. David is hilarious and a tornado. Meanwhile SB was hugging everything in sight. They make a great team. Stephane grabbed some hot tall blond girl and orchestrated a whole pick-up for/with me. It was going really well. Laughing, giggling, touching, having a well rounded good time. Then her guy friend came along and almost yelled at her for being with us, (he wanted to go eat or something) he obviously did not approve of her being happy, all of a sudden she turned to Stephane and said, "Are you some porno director?”
Funny how people will suddenly turn around and be really snotty after someone disapproves of them. She really liked us too, but because her friend didn’t too bad so sad! :o) Too bad for her, she didn’t really know who we were, heehee….
Anyways, that was the fun and giggles of the evening in a nutshell. There will be more to come!
Loves and giggles and licks
Ghita
Monday, April 23, 2007
"Hardcore Tam-Tam Lessons and Mucho Blushing"
So, yesterday Stephane gave me some more tips for my game.
- Posture. Hold my head up high, shoulders back, be 'arrogant"
- KINO: Be more touchy-feely with girls, treat them like they're aleady my girlfriend, and use touching as a qualifier to see if they can handle it (dismiss them immediately when they get too uptight and freeze)
- Use my authentic voice tone, soft, soft soft.
Recently I've been taking ballet classes and my posture has improved big time, so I've been thinking to myself that I'm some big hot-shot chickie-poo strutting around doing my thing.
So when he told me that my posture still needed a lot of work, I got super embarrassed ;)
So now, when I walking down the street I will keep my head erect! And let my chin lead the way. Stephane said something today, "A Bitch is a girl who is not insecure." And when I walk like that I get all kinds of people giving me the look, you know the one. "WHO in the world does THAT GIRL think she is?" and then they go home and secretly wish that they were you.
Next lesson...being more touchy feely. Geez, this one made me blush so much and made me want to hide out in a cafe until the parade was over. (We were walking with a whole bunch of people down MontRoyal Ave.) So, I was getting my lesson while there were a whole slew of people around. God I love social pressure....I'm actually serious :o)
BE MORE TOUCHY FEELY. Geez I was totally not expecting this one, (well... maybe on some level!) I had really worked hard last summer in turning into more of a closer/kino/rip your shirt off while being feminine kind of girl.
So when Steph said, "You have to work on it", well blushing kicked in. So he explained: When you're with someone who wants to touch you and then doesn't, but has it in their head that they want to touch you, and you're all creeped out by it because you KNOW what they WANT to, it's a slightly more icky situation to be in than the one where the person IS touching you and you can just tell 'em to stop. (He said it more eloquently mind you...)
Well, the above lesson took me about an hour to get in properly. I had to go through all of my little filters of insecurity and all that jazz so it could finally sink in on a deeper level. Learning this sutff is hard on the ego! Man o man... I mean the STUFF your brain comes up to counter-attack what is good for you and part of the learning process is hilarious! Steph says that 95% of guys just READ about improving their game, but don't actually have the courage to look at themselves, and I understand why! Learning the game is the most embarassing thing you could ever do because it forces you to take a good hard look at what a true dork you are ;)
So spanks... Thank you Jungle King for taking the time to help me get my inner/outer game to the next level! And for all those loving spanks, you are always right, and althought it stings... I love it. This is summer is going to be exceptional, and I for one cannot wait to get my game up to the next level baby!
oooo I sucha dork :o)
Blushing,
Ghita
- Posture. Hold my head up high, shoulders back, be 'arrogant"
- KINO: Be more touchy-feely with girls, treat them like they're aleady my girlfriend, and use touching as a qualifier to see if they can handle it (dismiss them immediately when they get too uptight and freeze)
- Use my authentic voice tone, soft, soft soft.
Recently I've been taking ballet classes and my posture has improved big time, so I've been thinking to myself that I'm some big hot-shot chickie-poo strutting around doing my thing.
So when he told me that my posture still needed a lot of work, I got super embarrassed ;)
So now, when I walking down the street I will keep my head erect! And let my chin lead the way. Stephane said something today, "A Bitch is a girl who is not insecure." And when I walk like that I get all kinds of people giving me the look, you know the one. "WHO in the world does THAT GIRL think she is?" and then they go home and secretly wish that they were you.
Next lesson...being more touchy feely. Geez, this one made me blush so much and made me want to hide out in a cafe until the parade was over. (We were walking with a whole bunch of people down MontRoyal Ave.) So, I was getting my lesson while there were a whole slew of people around. God I love social pressure....I'm actually serious :o)
BE MORE TOUCHY FEELY. Geez I was totally not expecting this one, (well... maybe on some level!) I had really worked hard last summer in turning into more of a closer/kino/rip your shirt off while being feminine kind of girl.
So when Steph said, "You have to work on it", well blushing kicked in. So he explained: When you're with someone who wants to touch you and then doesn't, but has it in their head that they want to touch you, and you're all creeped out by it because you KNOW what they WANT to, it's a slightly more icky situation to be in than the one where the person IS touching you and you can just tell 'em to stop. (He said it more eloquently mind you...)
Well, the above lesson took me about an hour to get in properly. I had to go through all of my little filters of insecurity and all that jazz so it could finally sink in on a deeper level. Learning this sutff is hard on the ego! Man o man... I mean the STUFF your brain comes up to counter-attack what is good for you and part of the learning process is hilarious! Steph says that 95% of guys just READ about improving their game, but don't actually have the courage to look at themselves, and I understand why! Learning the game is the most embarassing thing you could ever do because it forces you to take a good hard look at what a true dork you are ;)
So spanks... Thank you Jungle King for taking the time to help me get my inner/outer game to the next level! And for all those loving spanks, you are always right, and althought it stings... I love it. This is summer is going to be exceptional, and I for one cannot wait to get my game up to the next level baby!
oooo I sucha dork :o)
Blushing,
Ghita
Friday, April 20, 2007
"Spring Has Arrived!"
It is finally here! Montreal is bursting at the seams with life. Stephane and I took a walk on Mont-Royal down to Park la Fontaine and did some cleansing in the park. It was beautiful, the crocuses are flowering and the buds on the trees and bushes are just starting to pop out, a few more rainfalls from big Momma Earth and we've got ourselves a fully fledged spring!
One thing I really love about Montreal is that we have the full effect of the 4 seasons. So after the hard winter of being stuck inside getting cabin fever, eating a lot of food and plowing through work, when spring hits everyone goes a bit nutty, which is perfect! It is literally the ideal time to go out and meet people since it is "mating season" for us humans, hahaha...
Somebody asked me what I do in my typical day. The answer? I wake up happy, and go to sleep happy. Why am I so happy? Well, I've got the best man you could every hope to dream of having living and enjoying life with me.
"love is all you need" The Beatles knew what they were talking about. And spring? Spring is all about love, the red energy coming up into our feet after a long winter, the buds of love, the flowers of love, and the love of life returns to us all.
I love being sappy.. speaking of sap, one other thing I love about living here is the Maple Syrup. The real stuff. None of that auntie this or fenugreek that, no no, the real stuff. Real red energy, there is nothing like it. I remember Stephane and I went traveling to Kelowna last year and ordered pancakes, they brought us really gross syrup, we asked for maple syrup and they looked at us like we were nuts. So on a side note for myself, the next time I go travelling, I'm bringin myself two cans of the stuff.
Je vous adore!
Ghita
p.s. Stephane did a real sweet thing today, he helped this older woman carry her wet laundry up two flights of stairs, she asked me while he was busy, why we moved here, and I told her, "Look around you, life is beautiful here."
If you ever come to Montreal, and you're here on a Sunday, you have to come to the Tam-tams. A bunch of people all get together on Mont-Royal (the mountain, or hill rather...) and they bring things to sell, and people bring their drums and everybody has a huge party throughout the whole day. It's like a giant pik-nik - you suntan, you eat good food, you shop around in the little market area where people sell handmade clothes, jewlery etc., you meet people, you lounge around and take it easy...for the whole day.
Sunday, April 15, 2007
"Complaints and Grievances"
So recently, I have been running into a lot of old high school friends, and it's been interesting to see the reaction that I have been getting. It goes something like this:
Friend: "Whoa, Ghita? OH MY GOD! Is that you?! How ARE you?"
Translation: OH MY GOD! I cannot believe it's actually you! You look so good, what the HELL have you been doing? I've heard all this stuff about you being a pornstar!
ME: "Absolutly fantastic, thanks for asking!"
Friend: "Wow, you look sooo good! So... what HAVE you been doing?"
Translation: I heard a rumor that you're doing porn, and I believed the rumor, and holy shit you look sooo good, you GLOW.. maybe I should do porn!?
Anyway, I've always answered with "I help my boyfriend Stephane whom I been with for almost 3 years, run a buisness, and I live in the Plateau Mont-Royal with our cat... and what have you been up to?"
I've always kept it short and sweet.. Like I usually feel that they had already pre-judged me and had their own preconceived notions of who I am, and what I do ("porn"). And I concluded that I shouldn't bother trying to change their perceptions of me.
BUT... Last week, Stephane and I were out, and I ran into some old friends of mine...
So I see these two girls and they ask me the two questions: "How ARE you." and "What HAVE you been doing?" meanwhile their body language is saying, "so, are you doing porn or....?"
Whatever.. so I'm like, "Hey guys, glad to see you guys look healthy and well, and the questions you want to ask me is, if I am doing porn right?"
To which they reply in a shocked tone: "ohh! um, yea?! Are you? I heard some stuff..."
"No guys, I am not doing porn. What I am doing is running a buisness with my boyfriend Stephane, it's called ideaGasms® and the 'porn' that you are reffering to is a instructional educational DVD we made on how to teach couples how to enhance their sex lives, release pent up sexual frustrations, stress and have multiple whole body ejaculatory orgasms. And yes, I am openly bisexual."
Them: "ooooooo."
Translations: Woah! What did she just say? I wasn't actually listening.. plus it was way over my head! :o)
So anyway, old high school friends, this post is for you, if you see me on the street or find me online, just ask, don't beat around the bush. Just ask me nicely, and please, next time you hear a 'rumor' about anyone, about anything, don't just believe it on the fly, dig deeper, and research, for example, when you come to the website, don't just click on pictures and judge from that, actually READ what is written, and then you can make a full based judgement on what ideaGasms is about.
You jealous retards! ;)
Kisses,
Ghita
Friend: "Whoa, Ghita? OH MY GOD! Is that you?! How ARE you?"
Translation: OH MY GOD! I cannot believe it's actually you! You look so good, what the HELL have you been doing? I've heard all this stuff about you being a pornstar!
ME: "Absolutly fantastic, thanks for asking!"
Friend: "Wow, you look sooo good! So... what HAVE you been doing?"
Translation: I heard a rumor that you're doing porn, and I believed the rumor, and holy shit you look sooo good, you GLOW.. maybe I should do porn!?
Anyway, I've always answered with "I help my boyfriend Stephane whom I been with for almost 3 years, run a buisness, and I live in the Plateau Mont-Royal with our cat... and what have you been up to?"
I've always kept it short and sweet.. Like I usually feel that they had already pre-judged me and had their own preconceived notions of who I am, and what I do ("porn"). And I concluded that I shouldn't bother trying to change their perceptions of me.
BUT... Last week, Stephane and I were out, and I ran into some old friends of mine...
So I see these two girls and they ask me the two questions: "How ARE you." and "What HAVE you been doing?" meanwhile their body language is saying, "so, are you doing porn or....?"
Whatever.. so I'm like, "Hey guys, glad to see you guys look healthy and well, and the questions you want to ask me is, if I am doing porn right?"
To which they reply in a shocked tone: "ohh! um, yea?! Are you? I heard some stuff..."
"No guys, I am not doing porn. What I am doing is running a buisness with my boyfriend Stephane, it's called ideaGasms® and the 'porn' that you are reffering to is a instructional educational DVD we made on how to teach couples how to enhance their sex lives, release pent up sexual frustrations, stress and have multiple whole body ejaculatory orgasms. And yes, I am openly bisexual."
Them: "ooooooo."
Translations: Woah! What did she just say? I wasn't actually listening.. plus it was way over my head! :o)
So anyway, old high school friends, this post is for you, if you see me on the street or find me online, just ask, don't beat around the bush. Just ask me nicely, and please, next time you hear a 'rumor' about anyone, about anything, don't just believe it on the fly, dig deeper, and research, for example, when you come to the website, don't just click on pictures and judge from that, actually READ what is written, and then you can make a full based judgement on what ideaGasms is about.
You jealous retards! ;)
Kisses,
Ghita
Saturday, April 14, 2007
"Getting Slapped By Women"
So last night Stephane - oops, I mean Jungle King, haha.. and I went out to one of my best GF's birthday party. It was Friday the 13th, and rainy and essentialy pretty dead. Anyway, we had a rocking good time. And I got slapped in the face by a girl.
It was kind of funny really. I had talked to her previously and so had Stephane, and she was cool. Then I sat down beside her, and talked a little bit. Then I kissed her, just like a little peck, (like a chicken) on the conrner of her mouth. HOLY SMOKES! She flipped out, slapped me and pushed me and then started calling me a slut, and a whoare and essentially throwing the biggest temper tantrum I have ever seen. Three year old kids throwing tantrums are way more chillled out than this girl, seriously.
So I looked at her and laughed, told her she seemed upset, and that she was a fiesty one, which pissed her off even more. I mean, like you could see the smoke coming out of her ears. Anyway, while she was throwing this shit fit, and I was all too calm, I got up, said it was nice too meet you and went to the bathroom.
Well, she followed me, and then started to bitch me out in the bathroom. Calling me a dyke, and bla bla bla...
You know when you're really calm and collected and someone is really pissed off, they get even more pissed off? And when you try to talk to them normally, they freak out even more? And because your so cool, you kind of start laughing at the ridiculousness of the other persons behaviour? Which pisses them off even more? Well, that is exactly what was going down. Then another girl came in the bathroom to see what was happening, and because this girl was screming her head off I could not really get a word in edgewise. Which was fine, I mean, what is the point of trying to talk to someone when they won't even listen and are way too emotional to even try to listen?
So I took my leave, and went back to the bar smiling. I had just had a rocking good time, kept my cool, did not let this girl intimidate me, did not feel guilty for my actions and had throughly handled the situation quite well. I wish I had just 5 percent of the this innergame when I was in high school.
Anyways meanwhile, Stephane had thrown a drink on her, quite to the satisfaction of her boyfriend, who by that time had become our new best friend. He had been in the relationship for 5 years, and obviously in need of the GTP. I mean the whole time this was going down he kind of sat there smiling, and enjoying the emotional ride and the instability of his girlfriend. You could kind of tell that he had been waiting a long time for something like this to happen.
So I got my drink, and went outside, and then people started asking me what happened. Stephane almost got thrown out of the bar, but then when the bouncers found out what had really happened and they realized that this girl was over reacting, they asked her to leave instead.
So a whole bunch of people are around me and I tell them the situation: I pecked a girl on the side of her lips and she had a shit fit. Then started calling me a slut, whoare, disgusting, dyke and that I was dirty and stupid, and essentialy all those lovely things..
If she only knew : The world is you mirror. Every thing that she said to me, is what she thinks and judges about herself. If she had known that I think that maybe she would not have reacted in such a way. The thing is, she is probably a nice girl, but at that moment in time she was not.
The respect and admiration I got from people was great, they kept on asking me how exactly did it go down. I pecked every girl in the bar as a demonstration of what I did to the first girl. And every girl was like, "whoaa, that is it? Wow she freaked over a little peck?"
The night was fun and all is well that ends well.
WHEEE! we might be going to Texas! ohh yeah oh yea, gotten love the Texas drawls... Stephane and I agree - TX women are HOT.
lots of love
Ghita
p.s. little side note about kissing: when you kiss a girl, just make it a small peck at first. None of that lick your lips and go in for the kiss with your mouth wide open and your tongue jetting out like a piranha ready to attack. It just not cool.
p.p.s. FACT: Most girls are terrible kissers! :-o
It was kind of funny really. I had talked to her previously and so had Stephane, and she was cool. Then I sat down beside her, and talked a little bit. Then I kissed her, just like a little peck, (like a chicken) on the conrner of her mouth. HOLY SMOKES! She flipped out, slapped me and pushed me and then started calling me a slut, and a whoare and essentially throwing the biggest temper tantrum I have ever seen. Three year old kids throwing tantrums are way more chillled out than this girl, seriously.
So I looked at her and laughed, told her she seemed upset, and that she was a fiesty one, which pissed her off even more. I mean, like you could see the smoke coming out of her ears. Anyway, while she was throwing this shit fit, and I was all too calm, I got up, said it was nice too meet you and went to the bathroom.
Well, she followed me, and then started to bitch me out in the bathroom. Calling me a dyke, and bla bla bla...
You know when you're really calm and collected and someone is really pissed off, they get even more pissed off? And when you try to talk to them normally, they freak out even more? And because your so cool, you kind of start laughing at the ridiculousness of the other persons behaviour? Which pisses them off even more? Well, that is exactly what was going down. Then another girl came in the bathroom to see what was happening, and because this girl was screming her head off I could not really get a word in edgewise. Which was fine, I mean, what is the point of trying to talk to someone when they won't even listen and are way too emotional to even try to listen?
So I took my leave, and went back to the bar smiling. I had just had a rocking good time, kept my cool, did not let this girl intimidate me, did not feel guilty for my actions and had throughly handled the situation quite well. I wish I had just 5 percent of the this innergame when I was in high school.
Anyways meanwhile, Stephane had thrown a drink on her, quite to the satisfaction of her boyfriend, who by that time had become our new best friend. He had been in the relationship for 5 years, and obviously in need of the GTP. I mean the whole time this was going down he kind of sat there smiling, and enjoying the emotional ride and the instability of his girlfriend. You could kind of tell that he had been waiting a long time for something like this to happen.
So I got my drink, and went outside, and then people started asking me what happened. Stephane almost got thrown out of the bar, but then when the bouncers found out what had really happened and they realized that this girl was over reacting, they asked her to leave instead.
So a whole bunch of people are around me and I tell them the situation: I pecked a girl on the side of her lips and she had a shit fit. Then started calling me a slut, whoare, disgusting, dyke and that I was dirty and stupid, and essentialy all those lovely things..
If she only knew : The world is you mirror. Every thing that she said to me, is what she thinks and judges about herself. If she had known that I think that maybe she would not have reacted in such a way. The thing is, she is probably a nice girl, but at that moment in time she was not.
The respect and admiration I got from people was great, they kept on asking me how exactly did it go down. I pecked every girl in the bar as a demonstration of what I did to the first girl. And every girl was like, "whoaa, that is it? Wow she freaked over a little peck?"
The night was fun and all is well that ends well.
WHEEE! we might be going to Texas! ohh yeah oh yea, gotten love the Texas drawls... Stephane and I agree - TX women are HOT.
lots of love
Ghita
p.s. little side note about kissing: when you kiss a girl, just make it a small peck at first. None of that lick your lips and go in for the kiss with your mouth wide open and your tongue jetting out like a piranha ready to attack. It just not cool.
p.p.s. FACT: Most girls are terrible kissers! :-o
Friday, April 13, 2007
"POPPING THE BLOGGER CHERRY!"
Hello!
I just wanted to pop my blogger cherry be saying hello to all you wonderful people. I have been working like a mad woman. Before I met Stephane, I had honestly NO work ethic. I mean, work? What is this? Is it food? NO?
Now, It's been streamlined into my everyday rituals. Wake up, chakra cleanse, eat, espresso, shower, eat, work, eat, work, chakra cleanse, eat, cudddle Berties (our cat) clean, eat and then clean. Then at nightime, we usually relax, take the time for each other and ourselves, maybe watch a National Geographic, or a movie, or review the day, and then listen to a meditation or some "Tobias" with a tea and then sleep.
I eat a lot, I eat more than Stephane does. I love food. Foddies is one of the best things in life. You spend a huge majority of your life eating (rather, working to buy the food, shopping for the food, preparing the food, and then cleaning up after eating) which is why I think most first dates are usually at a restaurant, I mean, if you are going to be with someone, and the majority of time spent together is around eating, it seems like a pretty good idea to make sure that you enjoy eating with them no?
When I met Stephane, I could bake anything, but cooking? Forget about it, my diet consisted of a lot of veggies and fruits with baked goods. Stephane taught me how to time a meal, and making enough (not too much not too little) and getting it ready for when we both were hungry, it took a while, with a lot of eating out in the beginning, but now, yours truly can cook. Whee!
There are so many things that Stephane has taught me, many of them you know (Newsletters, GTP, Squirt DVD, Chakras) but there are other little things that you don't. He really is an amazing man. When I wake up in the morning I am so overjoyed to be with him and my heart swells with love and I sometimes cry. We're kind of like that couple that people see and get grossed out because we're so in love and perfect but at the same time that kind of love is exactly what they want. I love it!
Anyway, we are going out tonight, so hopefully I will have some juicy bisexual adventures stuff to post tomorrow...
lots of love
Ghita
I just wanted to pop my blogger cherry be saying hello to all you wonderful people. I have been working like a mad woman. Before I met Stephane, I had honestly NO work ethic. I mean, work? What is this? Is it food? NO?
Now, It's been streamlined into my everyday rituals. Wake up, chakra cleanse, eat, espresso, shower, eat, work, eat, work, chakra cleanse, eat, cudddle Berties (our cat) clean, eat and then clean. Then at nightime, we usually relax, take the time for each other and ourselves, maybe watch a National Geographic, or a movie, or review the day, and then listen to a meditation or some "Tobias" with a tea and then sleep.
I eat a lot, I eat more than Stephane does. I love food. Foddies is one of the best things in life. You spend a huge majority of your life eating (rather, working to buy the food, shopping for the food, preparing the food, and then cleaning up after eating) which is why I think most first dates are usually at a restaurant, I mean, if you are going to be with someone, and the majority of time spent together is around eating, it seems like a pretty good idea to make sure that you enjoy eating with them no?
When I met Stephane, I could bake anything, but cooking? Forget about it, my diet consisted of a lot of veggies and fruits with baked goods. Stephane taught me how to time a meal, and making enough (not too much not too little) and getting it ready for when we both were hungry, it took a while, with a lot of eating out in the beginning, but now, yours truly can cook. Whee!
There are so many things that Stephane has taught me, many of them you know (Newsletters, GTP, Squirt DVD, Chakras) but there are other little things that you don't. He really is an amazing man. When I wake up in the morning I am so overjoyed to be with him and my heart swells with love and I sometimes cry. We're kind of like that couple that people see and get grossed out because we're so in love and perfect but at the same time that kind of love is exactly what they want. I love it!
Anyway, we are going out tonight, so hopefully I will have some juicy bisexual adventures stuff to post tomorrow...
lots of love
Ghita
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