So, yesterday Stephane gave me some more tips for my game.
- Posture. Hold my head up high, shoulders back, be 'arrogant"
- KINO: Be more touchy-feely with girls, treat them like they're aleady my girlfriend, and use touching as a qualifier to see if they can handle it (dismiss them immediately when they get too uptight and freeze)
- Use my authentic voice tone, soft, soft soft.
Recently I've been taking ballet classes and my posture has improved big time, so I've been thinking to myself that I'm some big hot-shot chickie-poo strutting around doing my thing.
So when he told me that my posture still needed a lot of work, I got super embarrassed ;)
So now, when I walking down the street I will keep my head erect! And let my chin lead the way. Stephane said something today, "A Bitch is a girl who is not insecure." And when I walk like that I get all kinds of people giving me the look, you know the one. "WHO in the world does THAT GIRL think she is?" and then they go home and secretly wish that they were you.
Next lesson...being more touchy feely. Geez, this one made me blush so much and made me want to hide out in a cafe until the parade was over. (We were walking with a whole bunch of people down MontRoyal Ave.) So, I was getting my lesson while there were a whole slew of people around. God I love social pressure....I'm actually serious :o)
BE MORE TOUCHY FEELY. Geez I was totally not expecting this one, (well... maybe on some level!) I had really worked hard last summer in turning into more of a closer/kino/rip your shirt off while being feminine kind of girl.
So when Steph said, "You have to work on it", well blushing kicked in. So he explained: When you're with someone who wants to touch you and then doesn't, but has it in their head that they want to touch you, and you're all creeped out by it because you KNOW what they WANT to, it's a slightly more icky situation to be in than the one where the person IS touching you and you can just tell 'em to stop. (He said it more eloquently mind you...)
Well, the above lesson took me about an hour to get in properly. I had to go through all of my little filters of insecurity and all that jazz so it could finally sink in on a deeper level. Learning this sutff is hard on the ego! Man o man... I mean the STUFF your brain comes up to counter-attack what is good for you and part of the learning process is hilarious! Steph says that 95% of guys just READ about improving their game, but don't actually have the courage to look at themselves, and I understand why! Learning the game is the most embarassing thing you could ever do because it forces you to take a good hard look at what a true dork you are ;)
So spanks... Thank you Jungle King for taking the time to help me get my inner/outer game to the next level! And for all those loving spanks, you are always right, and althought it stings... I love it. This is summer is going to be exceptional, and I for one cannot wait to get my game up to the next level baby!
oooo I sucha dork :o)
Blushing,
Ghita
