"Feeling Insecure? GO DO YOUR CHAKRAS!"

Question:

I was wondering - what do you do when you feel insecure? I've been feeling insecure lately, and I spent all of yesterday meditating and even did a hypnosis! It was so great, every time I meditated, I had less and less fears to let go of.

My Comments:

You just answered your own question; meditation is the best way to let go of insecurities. When you meditate you give your mind a chance to quiet down and sort out the "extra blockage" that is surrounding you.

Another thing about "insecurities" is having the ability to be able to voice the insecurity, (a.k.a .as worry and self doubt) with your partner. I have this quote that I love from Eckhart Tolle:

Are you worried? Do you have many "what if" thoughts? You are identified with your mind, which is projecting itself into an imaginary future situation and creating fear.

There is no way that you can cope with such a situation because it doesn't exist. It's a mental phantom. You can stop this health-and-life corroding insanity simply by acknowledging the present moment.

Become aware of your breathing. Feel the air flowing in and out of your body. Feel your inner energy field. All that you ever have to deal with cope with, in real life - as opposed to imaginary mind projections- is this moment.

Ask yourself, what "problem" you have right now, not next year, tomorrow, or five minutes from now. What is wrong with this moment?

You can always cope with the Now, but you can never cope with the future - nor do you have to. The strength, the right action, or the right resource will be there when you need it, not before, not after.

Power Of Now
By: Eckhart Tolle

I used to have a big problem with speaking my truth, voicing my insecurities, my worries, and my self-doubts. I did not want to 'seem' like some scared little girl, which just made it worse because I was holding all these things inside and really was scared.

I still do hold things in, but I've come a long way since I met Stephane, he could see through my non-verbal actions right down to what I was really feeling inside. I cannot hide anything from him. It is truly liberating, an enormous freedom which at first seems difficult. Because telling people what is on your mind, what is truly on you mind can be one of the hardest things do. People lie constantly, to themselves, to others, and I was definitely no exception, so when it came down to crunch time and being honest with my self, I found it pretty hard.

I just thank Stephane for being there with me on the days when I'm not feeling my self and listening to me. Then he usually tells me to go and do a meditation :o) lol, I usually go and do the orange chakra meditation, and/or yellow chakra meditation and read the Eckhart Tolle quote about worry. I take some time to breathe and allow any stress to leave my body.

Going to do a chakra meditation :o)
Ghita

"Feminine Energies and Tree Hugging"

*Question:

Hi Ghita!!
Hmmm I'm really having some trouble reconnecting with my feminine side... I just only recently figured out that I've misinterpreted giving my power away as femininity, and that I've totally forgot how to be feminine... hmmm, I'm feeling kinda lost here, if you could offer some help it'd be awesome!! Like advice on how to separate poorme-bullshit from real femininity and such...

Thanks and luvs and warm hugs.

Ghita comments:

Learning the difference between giving away your power and being a feminine woman is something that I continue to work on a daily basis. It is really all about trusting yourself. If you cannot trust yourself, than you 'll have a hard time trusting others who are in your life.

It's about letting go of neediness. Many women tend to gravitate towards men that need us. And then we end up giving everything we've got to that man and having no energy left for ourselves. We freely let ourselves be energy vamped because we have the illusion that we are in love when we really are just needy. We have the need to be needed. (it reminds me of the song "I want you to want me, I need you to need me'

We crave love so badly that we'll put ourselves in positions of complete giving but for wrong reasons.

As a woman, a feminine woman, we may have to check our red, orange and yellow chakras a bit more and on a regular basis. You CAN trust yourself. You ARE OKAY. You have ENERGY to be YOURSELF. You are alive, and you are well. You ARE OKAY. (and say this out loud to yourself, I am okay, I am alive, and I am okay)

When you're interacting with others, it is out of a 'want' to interact. Not out of a 'need' to interact. You are choosing to interact with another person, you're not needing them.

And while you are interacting, you TRUST yourself that you will not let your self be energy vamped by others, and that you TRUST YOUR SELF that you will not do the same to others. This takes time and practice - you need to start cataloguing all of the little ways in which you give away your power, and shining the light of awareness on those.

When it comes to poor-me energies, I have a little trick. Its really simple, and it involves going for a walk in nature.

When you have an attack of the 'poor-me' energy it is usually from doing/saying/thinking something that you're ashamed of, and then going back into your head and thinking about all the other 'stupid' stuff that you've said/done/thought about.

And then it becomes a vicious cycle where you think about what you just did, what you've done, what you should do, and then what you just did do, and then about what you had done in the past and etc. etc.

Stephane tells me that this "cycle of poor me energy" is the equivalent of getting out a nice heavy hammer and whacking yourself on the head repeatedly until you learn a lesson. It's great fun you should try it the next time you go into a poor me cycle.(Please note that that was a joke and should not be attempted at home, haha)

When you are emotional, (ain't being a woman grand ;o) if you are in an area of "PM (poor-me)" then my first suggestion is to let out the energy of crying, anger, irritation, depression, out in a safe place, like a quiet park, forested area, your garden, or any place where there are trees and vegetation.

The reason I say go for a walk (especially in a green environment) is because it will let you breathe deeply (rich oxygen around the trees and vegetation)and you will be able to re-connect with your roots. And if you want to cry you will be able to freely, crying is a 'let-go' energy, (and you KNOW the difference between a 'let-go' cry and a 'PM' cry) you're releasing the energy of whatever you might think is 'wrong' with you, you letting go of the PM energy, releasing the blame you might feel for hurting your self, and you'll be able to realize what you can do in future pro-actively to not put your self in situations where you are hurting your self (or others).

When things are up in the air and you feel you have no control one of the steps I take to reconnect with myself is go out and hug a bunch of trees. You will ground yourself this way and feel like you ARE in control of your emotions.

Realize the freedom you have to be your self. When you are by yourself do you sing out loud? Do you dance weird dances? Do you check out your butt in the mirror and approve? Do you say funny things and talk in a different language that only you understand?

Become child-like again. Run naked around your house. Then lie down on the floor and breath deeply and sing a silly song. Get in touch with you. With your body, with your own personal freedom, with the feminine side of you.

breathing deeply with you while you run around naked and sing silly songs,
Ghita

p.s. While Stephane and I were up North we ran into some great looking trees and I took a few pictures to remind myself of how incredible nature is and how nature doesn't have attacks of the PM's

The tree that sang "I will survive" to me:




And feminine within the masculine ( We call this one "The Pussy Tree" ^^)

"Dream"

I had the most beautiful dream last night. I dreamt that I was in a huge brightly lit beautiful castle. I was searching for crystals. I was barefoot, and I could feel the stones under my feet. I found the crystals one by one, the first one was in the inner courtyard, and it was a huge bright red crystal. I mean enormous! I sat by it and then went to find the next crystal, which was in a different courtyard, another gigantic crystal, but this time it was orange. I could see the colors, and feel everything around me.

I continued my search and found the yellow crystal in a viewing room of sorts, almost like a greenhouse but without the roof. I then found the green crystal, which was located at the heart of the castle in the midst of a huge ocean, the water was flowing green and the water had paths throughout the castle. I knew I had to come back to this place.

I continued my search and found in all twelve crystals. The twelfth crystal was located near the green crystal. I had to dive into the water, and found that I could breath just fine. In the water there were dolphins swimming all around and talking to me. I found the most beautiful colors at the bottom of the ocean floor. It looked like a rainbow but it had colors that I had never seen before, it was the most enormous crystal I had ever seen. It spanned the whole of the ocean bed as far as the eye could see and radiated energy like I had never felt before.

I could feel the water around me, I could hear the dolphins and hear the energy, and I could see everything. Everything was vivid and alive, it was the most incredible dream I have ever had. When I woke up, I felt like I should dry myself off, even though I was not wet. My feet felt like I had been walking barefoot on stone, and my body felt rejuvenated.

It was the ultimate dream, the most real one I have ever experienced.

Ghita

"Short Funny FR"

I was walking back home from the pharmacy just at the hour of dusk. I see this girl sitting on a picnic bench with her friend and the girl is wearing this stunning white dress, she's picturesque perfect. Anyways as I approach her I'm looking at her feet she has these awesome sandals on that I've never seen anywhere before. I'm about two feet away from her staring at her sandals and cute feet and I trip over something that is sticking out of the pavement. I almost fell into her lap. Recovering myself as she's asking me if I'm okay I say, "I'm fantastic, I fell over because I was checking you out and checking out your sandals, they're freaking awesome!"

Laughing she's like, I got them at *insert fancy expensive posh store here*.

I realize now that I'm face to face with her that she is a lot older than what I had originally thought, but she was really in shape, pretty and had an overall real beautiful aura about her. So we chitchat for a bit and I tell her that she's awesome and to have a great night.

So lesson of the day Ghita; If you're walking down the street and you see something you like, and then you almost fall flat on your face because you were so enthralled by what you were looking at. Tell 'em.

"I fell over because I was checking you out."

Bloody brilliant opener.

kisses
Ghita

"Cute 4Set & Yin"

So I had some errands to do today on the other side of Montreal today and saw a super cute girl wearing a bright yellow dress and holding a piece of straw in her hand.

I told her, "You look like summertime with your yellow dress and your straw, you're real cute!" (Did a little dance move to show her what I thought of her, a cross between a little kid begging for something and a hot babe laughing and blushing)

Laughing she said "Aww yes I do don't I?"

"You know all we need now is to put ourselves in a huge field me and you and it would be picture perfect."

"Yes! Haha, that would be perfect!"

"So what are you doing”?

"Just wandering around"

"Why don't we go for a walk?"

"Sure!"

So we started walking and talking about nonsense things, like our shoes and how we love dresses, and the interaction was going really well until the boyfriend showed up.

Anyway, we walked to the corner of the street and she ran into two more fiends (guy and girl) so the one-set turned into a four set. Which I have to practice so it was good training purposes for yours truly.

We parted ways and I walked down the block. Ahead of me where three girls, one was wearing a white dress, one wearing a green dress and the third wearing a red dress. I was immediately reminded of Christmas time and the Winter.

So I said, "Hey you guys! Geez! You all remind me of winter! Of Christmas! Look at you three! Why would you do that!?" (Playful grin on my face on my face while I'm saying it :o)

Laughing, they hadn't realized their color coordination and agreed that they did indeed look like Christmas. I was about to introduce myself when the guy that they were with said, "Ghita!?"

Turns out I went to elementary school with him. Anyway I continued talking to all of them for a bit and did the whole, "how are you? I'm great!" thing with my elementary school buddy and wished them all a good afternoon and said bye to the x-mas girls.

It was bizarre seeing him because it reminded me of when I was younger, and how I had this huge crush on his girlfriend.

So that was basically the day of running four sets. I took the bus home and didn't see many other girls on the bus and metro.

Getting off the metro I saw that I had just missed my bus. So it being a beautiful day I walked home and smelt all the trees and flowers on the way.

Across the street I saw a group of 5 girls and a guy on a skateboard. I decided to investigate. They were ahead of me and I noticed that they were quite young. (14 to 16) So I just observed. And what I saw made my heart sing.

All the girls where holding hands and cuddling each other while walking down the street. Playing with each other’s hair, one of them even smacked the other on the butt; it was pure Yin energy, untainted, happy, alive and well. It made me smile all the way home.

The girls of today are bisexual; I see it everywhere I go. I see girls kissing girls, holding hands, being together and enjoying each other’s Yin energy. It really is a beautiful thing.

I came home and told Stephane, and he smiled knowingly, and then said, go write in your blog Ghita. lol, so here is the short story of my day.

Much appreciation for you all who read, and enjoy.
Ghita

"Chocolate Martinis and Leading The Pack"

I checked my messages on my cell to find a call from a fellow ballerina who wanted to do "chocolate martinis girls night". Sweeeeeet! It was exactly what Stephane prescribed (I had been moody and in need of some Yin Therapy) I hooked up with the girls downtown. We were all wearing dresses and it was bloody freezing outside so we were eager to get to the destination.

We get to the place we're supposed to go to, (some retro's 80's club) only to be denied access at the door (one girl forgot her purse/ID and if one don't go, they all don't go, kind of like a pack of dogs, it's cute really) So we're in the street, the five of us and they're freaking a little bit cause they don't know what to do. So I said, let's go to my house! (heh-heh, time to show my leadership qualities to myself and others) It's a great feeling when you can direct and orchestrate a group to bigger and better things.

I called Stephane up and he was with a friend of his at home, I asked him if I could bring the girls by the house to shoot some pool and have some drinks. Laughing, he asked, "Why must you always bring home girls Ghita?"

So like the leader that I am I lead the girls to the bus stop and we jumped into the bus laughing and giggling. We got off at Mont-Royal Street and still had a ways to go to get back to my place. We jumped into a taxi and all of a sudden one of the girls realized her cell phone was missing. (She had dropped it when she got out of the bus)

So she almost starts crying and wailing and I'm like, okay! OKAY! EVERYTHING IS OKAY! Taxi driver, turn around we've gotta go back to where you picked us up!" Anyway, some guy had picked her phone up and everything was find afterwards, and she was like "Thank you so much Ghita for turning the taxi around!" lol, like I would have let her cry and just sit there... Such a cutie.

I took control of the situation like a champ. Directing the taxi driver to the new destination and calming the girl down and reassuring her then making jokes about how the guy could be calling phone sex lines and how it would reflect on her life and how she would have to explain to the phone company how she wasn't really a horny dirty girl but a nice and horny girl. So getting them laughing and still have high energy while in taxis is a must for moving sets around. There is always a bonus though if you have ALL girls, they have a tendency to just bounce things over to each other with such ease.

Note to Self: Funny how a girl kind of goes cooo-coo without her cell phone or her purse. Have you ever seen them? (I am not excluded from the above statement) They kind of go slightly nuts and flap their arms around like a chicken. And then tears well up in their eyes. And either you have to take the lead of the situation or they make a huge puddle of tears around themselves and throw little fits.

So we get to the house and they love the place, we have a nice cozy loft with a bunch of paintings on the walls, crystals here and there and candles, so when girls come over they have things to look at so that they can get comfortable with the place first. They have to sniff it out a little bit before getting comfortable you know?

Anyways we all get comfy and make some drinks and some jell-o shots and have a grand time. Stephane and his friend lay back during this time to give the girls come breathing room and to let them feel at ease. Stephane always knows what to do in situations like these, he reads minds I swear

I was the life of the party and we had a great time. It was exactly what I needed. I led them to playing pool, and coordinated them to make drinks, got them danced and then I got them all to help me clean up the kitchen. (It’s all about the teamwork!) At one point they were slightly confused as to who leads who (with me and Stephane) so Stephane (the mind reader) comes over to where we are all sitting and he picks me up over his shoulder pulls me into the hallway and we kiss, then he picks me up and puts me back down in my seat.


Point taken, Stephane is the leader, so we all follow Stephane's lead. :o) Something that is great about this is that there is no confusion as to what "roles" we have. And when meeting new people it's a good thing to make sure the roles are established before hand or else it gets confusing. It's like a dog sled, there's the first dog who leads and he's got a whole bunch of other dogs following him, but who in reality is truly leading? The Man with the sled and the reigns, he's telling the dogs where to go. Stephane is the Man; I am top dog in training, the rest of the pack follow.

It was all in all a sweet night. But towards the end two of the girls were falling in love with Stephane, and Stephane was like okay, I'm going now to get food, bye girls! It was funny because one of them started touching Stephane and having little battles with the other one of "who owns him". These two didn't really know all about IG so they didn’t really understand the "WE SHARE" frame that Stephane and I have.

The other two did understand the frame, and one of them was so nervous when she talked to Stephane it was hilarious. The other was intimidated as well so I put her to work in the kitchen so she would feel useful. Later he asked me if I had put any moves on her (the nervous one who kept talking to Steph), I was like nope baby, she does know that we have girlfriends together though. Laughing he was like OH! Right, so every time I said something all she was thinking about was what it would be like to be in bed with you and me! awwww, I love you Steph, thank you for helping me become a better woman and a proud woman!

The end of the night I thanked them all for coming and said "think about all the money we saved on booze!" To which they replied, "OH! Do you want us to pay you!?" lol, "No no!! I meant that it's a good thing we all saved our money so we can all go out some other time!"

Stephane said once that if she doesn't offer to pay something at least once then she's a taker and not a giver. Well all the girls pitched in for taxis, helped me in the kitchen, and offered to pay me for the night. Which is not what I meant when I said "think of all the money..." but still pretty sweet of them considering they all go to school and have part time jobs,

So, when you're making new friends Ghita, make sure they're givers, not takers. This summer will be awesome! And I will have more adventures for you soon!

Ghita

P.S. On another side note. While we were walking downtown and while we waiting for the bus there would always be people looking at us, usually a guy with his girlfriend, or the girlfriend or both, anyway, the girls would always get all prissy about it and say things like "Oh my god, what an asshole, he's got a girlfriend. What is HE looking at? What does SHE think she's looking at?" bla bla bla

So I started saying, "Hey there is no problem with that, we're hot girls, we got dressed up all pretty and if they both like girls and are checking us out cause they like us, nothing wrong with that in my book!"

And at first there was some resistance, to what I said. But then as I kept plowing them with the above sentence the 5th time that it happened where we were checked out THEY said, "Hey maybe they both like girls and it's okay right Ghita!" I said, "That is RIGHT!"

Another technique, you have them all together on a couch, and they're cuddling, holding hands and playing with each others hair, you tell them, "All girls are bisexual right!?" Cut them of when they try to answer, and say, "You don't see GUYS holding hands and walking into the bathroom do you? Have you ever kissed a girl? Don't you find other girls hot? You're playing with her hair" And you're hugging her! Come on you wouldn't kiss a girl? BULLS***"

To which they get frustrated because I asked so many questions at once they have to agree once I let them get a word in, plus I am persuasive as all hell that all women are bisexual and I'm right.

Ghita

"A Question Posted On The IG Forum About Ghita's Giggles"

I've noticed on both of your videos (Breaking the Ice and GTP Body Language) that Ghita gets all giggly and her buying temperature goes way up whenever you look at her. It seems like she gets attracted whenever you say anything. Does this happen most of the time for you? If so, how the hell do you do it? I know that there is probably no quick fix and the squirting is probably a major contributor, but can you expand on this a bit?

Thanks,
"Sparks"


>My Reply:

We get this question a LOT !!

Stephane definitely makes me euphoric. He's got the best drug out there, love. When I look into his eyes, or even just look at him, I have this rush of good feelings that passes like a wave over my whole body, my temperature rises, and then I get goosebumps and then I just want to jump on him. Which happens often. heehee

I trust him, and when trust happens, you feel safe, and when you're safe you get happy, fast. I don't just mean "normal trust", I mean DEEP unconditional trust - the kind women dream about.

I feel I can just be free to be exactly who I am around him. I don't have to worry about anything. Most women are repressed, and know that if they were to let go and be the woman they truly are, the guy would freak and get too insecure. Most women have this complaint about their men, that they cannot HANDLE her.

So now, I'm like a child who has realized that the world is a phenomenally beautiful place and cannot wait to tell others about it.

I mean, when he looks at me, or I look at him (while he's busy working or on the can ;) I think that everything he does is beautiful, even if we are frustrated and stuck in something I have pure faith that everything will be okay. Because everything always turns out okay (well most of the time it turns out perfectly).

I trust him with my life. I fully and completely opened up to him, tell him everything, we have no secrets, we've had *girlfriends* together, went through so many difficulties with family and friends while building IG, we've grown together, and he's the only man in my life.

He knows what I'm feeling when I'm feeling it, and he knows, well, he knows how to treat a woman like a woman. And he has this way of moving slow and not reacting to things, like a bomb could go off and MAYBE he'll blink.

He's helped me blossom into something beautiful and every time I look at him I'm reminded of my own beauty, and I get overwhelmed (the good kind) and just start giggling. Plus he makes me laugh all the time. He grosses me out too. On purpose. Like he'll say the most disgusting things imaginable, deliberately trying to make me vomit. I don't know why I LIKE it so much, maybe Stephane could explain that one!

(Shit, I just asked him to explain it and he said, "Nope!" and then I said, "Pleeeeeease!" and he laughed & said, "There are some mysteries in life that will never be revealed!" and now I feel like screaming I'm so mad, yet at the same time I wanna jump his bones. Now he's joking around saying, "I didn't fuck women up, take it up with Creator. I'm not the programmer, Oh Neurotic female freak, I'm just a dumb wizard running the programs!)

I love us.

Giggles,
Ghita

Unrelated P.S. - The YouTube videos, and the recording parties we did had so many bloopers in them it was ridiculous, there was one point where I was laughing so hard snot flew out my nose. I couldn't stand because my stomach hurt so much and we had to take a 10 minute break. It was a lot of fun. The recordings were even worse. There is one of them that halfway through the question I was reading I burst out laughing and kept reading, and then laughed again, I had to take quite a few breaks and wipe the tears out of my eyes. Thanks to all of you who were there by the way!

"The Mountains. Running Around Naked and Berties"

On Friday Stephane and I went to get an energetic clearing done. It felt sooo good, it's like a huge chakras cleanse on steroids. We had been working super hard and needed a break. "The Teacher" offered to lend us her cottage up north in the Laurentiens, and we jumped right in. It was incredible.

There was no electricity, no cell phone connection; the nearest telephone was in town about 30minutes walk away, a beautiful lake, a nice big stream and nature all around. We saw hawks, ducks, chipmunks, raccoons and we took care of two cats while we were there, an Egyptian Mau (named Diva) and a huge big fat black cat that was 20 years old (named Zeus), who played like a kitten even though he's like 100 years old in cat years. Diva loved me and the Zeus loved Stephane.



"The Teacher" explained that Egyptian Mau's are able to see the spirit world, and used to be used by the ancient Egyptians to see if people were evil,and to help them know if evil spirits were lurking around them.

We had fires every night. One night it got so cold, I was shivering so much that Stephane woke up at like 6am and started a fire for me, it took him almost three hours to get the room hot enough so that I would stop shivering. It was a beautiful thing really :o) He was such a caveman, oooo you had to see it, heehee...

It was just gorgeous; we meditated by the stream, and we went into the forest everyday, collected trees that had fallen in the winter to use for firewood. Stephane had a chainsaw to cut the fallen trees into pieces. Oh my goodness, that thing scared the *insert bad word here* out of me.

Anyway, we now really want to get a place up there. I had totally forgotten what nature is like. I grew up in the country and hadn't gone back for three years, when I was little I would run around our property naked playing with the fairies. When I was up north with Stephane, I totally ran around naked and played with the fairies. I missed it so much! I mean, everyone has to run around naked outside at least once in his or her lifetime, I recommend it. I mean, don't do it in the city because you'd probably be arrested (please check your state laws). There is such a freedom that comes with it. I mean, apart from the mosquito bites on the butt, but still!

Another thing about being up there is the QUIET. There is no traffic, no noise, just birds and some howls of wolves. It is also dark. The darkness envelops you like a huge blanket, it doesn't suffocate you, and it lets you breathe and lets you know it's there. I've never really been afraid of the dark, I find it comforting. There is certain stillness that makes you breathe deeper, and relax into yourself, it gives you the gift of awareness of you body. It makes you feel as though you're alone in the world, a quiet peaceful still world of comforting darkness.

I miss it already, last night I was talking to Stephane about how cool it would be if all the electricity shut off for a little bit; so the world could take a break from it. A little while later we had a power outage in our neighborhood for no apparent reason. It was pretty sweet.

Our cat Berties missed us so much, he was so happy to see us when we got back. He's siamese, so he talks a lot! I wish I could understand cat's meows; it would have been great to understand what he was saying. I mean I know basically what he said "Ghita! Stephane! Where have you guys been? Where?! I missed you so much, I didn't have any wet foodies, and all you gave me was this dry stuff! Rub me! Pet me! Brush me! I missed you sooo much! I saw this huge bird the other day, then I played with the other cats then I chased after a bee!"

He's great. We've been letting him go outside recently, Stephane made this contraption so that he can get into and out of the house by himself. It's awesome. Mind you, I was terrified. I mean, he's my little baby, he comes when I call him, if I ask him if he wants foodies he starts meowing, I tell him I made him his bed and he comes to lie down with me, he is like a dog in a cats body. So letting him outside!? Whew, anyways, it's a real 'let go' lesson I needed to learn. There is that line, "If you truly love them set them free, if they return they're yours". Well I don't know if this applies to all humans, but Berties he knows we feed him the good stuff (specially formulated foodies for siamese), so he comes back, plus he's emotionally insecure and needs his reassurance that all is okay in the world :o) (especially when he comes back from being outside where there is so much action, he needs to know he can come back to a safe place where it's calm and loving).

I like that :o)

Thank you Stephane for taking such good care of me and for loving me so well and so freely.

Yours,

Ghita