I checked my messages on my cell to find a call from a fellow ballerina who wanted to do "chocolate martinis girls night". Sweeeeeet! It was exactly what Stephane prescribed (I had been moody and in need of some Yin Therapy) I hooked up with the girls downtown. We were all wearing dresses and it was bloody freezing outside so we were eager to get to the destination.
We get to the place we're supposed to go to, (some retro's 80's club) only to be denied access at the door (one girl forgot her purse/ID and if one don't go, they all don't go, kind of like a pack of dogs, it's cute really) So we're in the street, the five of us and they're freaking a little bit cause they don't know what to do. So I said, let's go to my house! (heh-heh, time to show my leadership qualities to myself and others) It's a great feeling when you can direct and orchestrate a group to bigger and better things.
I called Stephane up and he was with a friend of his at home, I asked him if I could bring the girls by the house to shoot some pool and have some drinks. Laughing, he asked, "Why must you always bring home girls Ghita?"
So like the leader that I am I lead the girls to the bus stop and we jumped into the bus laughing and giggling. We got off at Mont-Royal Street and still had a ways to go to get back to my place. We jumped into a taxi and all of a sudden one of the girls realized her cell phone was missing. (She had dropped it when she got out of the bus)
So she almost starts crying and wailing and I'm like, okay! OKAY! EVERYTHING IS OKAY! Taxi driver, turn around we've gotta go back to where you picked us up!" Anyway, some guy had picked her phone up and everything was find afterwards, and she was like "Thank you so much Ghita for turning the taxi around!" lol, like I would have let her cry and just sit there... Such a cutie.
I took control of the situation like a champ. Directing the taxi driver to the new destination and calming the girl down and reassuring her then making jokes about how the guy could be calling phone sex lines and how it would reflect on her life and how she would have to explain to the phone company how she wasn't really a horny dirty girl but a nice and horny girl. So getting them laughing and still have high energy while in taxis is a must for moving sets around. There is always a bonus though if you have ALL girls, they have a tendency to just bounce things over to each other with such ease.
Note to Self: Funny how a girl kind of goes cooo-coo without her cell phone or her purse. Have you ever seen them? (I am not excluded from the above statement) They kind of go slightly nuts and flap their arms around like a chicken. And then tears well up in their eyes. And either you have to take the lead of the situation or they make a huge puddle of tears around themselves and throw little fits.
So we get to the house and they love the place, we have a nice cozy loft with a bunch of paintings on the walls, crystals here and there and candles, so when girls come over they have things to look at so that they can get comfortable with the place first. They have to sniff it out a little bit before getting comfortable you know?
Anyways we all get comfy and make some drinks and some jell-o shots and have a grand time. Stephane and his friend lay back during this time to give the girls come breathing room and to let them feel at ease. Stephane always knows what to do in situations like these, he reads minds I swear
I was the life of the party and we had a great time. It was exactly what I needed. I led them to playing pool, and coordinated them to make drinks, got them danced and then I got them all to help me clean up the kitchen. (It’s all about the teamwork!) At one point they were slightly confused as to who leads who (with me and Stephane) so Stephane (the mind reader) comes over to where we are all sitting and he picks me up over his shoulder pulls me into the hallway and we kiss, then he picks me up and puts me back down in my seat.
Point taken, Stephane is the leader, so we all follow Stephane's lead. :o) Something that is great about this is that there is no confusion as to what "roles" we have. And when meeting new people it's a good thing to make sure the roles are established before hand or else it gets confusing. It's like a dog sled, there's the first dog who leads and he's got a whole bunch of other dogs following him, but who in reality is truly leading? The Man with the sled and the reigns, he's telling the dogs where to go. Stephane is the Man; I am top dog in training, the rest of the pack follow.
It was all in all a sweet night. But towards the end two of the girls were falling in love with Stephane, and Stephane was like okay, I'm going now to get food, bye girls! It was funny because one of them started touching Stephane and having little battles with the other one of "who owns him". These two didn't really know all about IG so they didn’t really understand the "WE SHARE" frame that Stephane and I have.
The other two did understand the frame, and one of them was so nervous when she talked to Stephane it was hilarious. The other was intimidated as well so I put her to work in the kitchen so she would feel useful. Later he asked me if I had put any moves on her (the nervous one who kept talking to Steph), I was like nope baby, she does know that we have girlfriends together though. Laughing he was like OH! Right, so every time I said something all she was thinking about was what it would be like to be in bed with you and me! awwww, I love you Steph, thank you for helping me become a better woman and a proud woman!
The end of the night I thanked them all for coming and said "think about all the money we saved on booze!" To which they replied, "OH! Do you want us to pay you!?" lol, "No no!! I meant that it's a good thing we all saved our money so we can all go out some other time!"
Stephane said once that if she doesn't offer to pay something at least once then she's a taker and not a giver. Well all the girls pitched in for taxis, helped me in the kitchen, and offered to pay me for the night. Which is not what I meant when I said "think of all the money..." but still pretty sweet of them considering they all go to school and have part time jobs,
So, when you're making new friends Ghita, make sure they're givers, not takers. This summer will be awesome! And I will have more adventures for you soon!
Ghita
P.S. On another side note. While we were walking downtown and while we waiting for the bus there would always be people looking at us, usually a guy with his girlfriend, or the girlfriend or both, anyway, the girls would always get all prissy about it and say things like "Oh my god, what an asshole, he's got a girlfriend. What is HE looking at? What does SHE think she's looking at?" bla bla bla
So I started saying, "Hey there is no problem with that, we're hot girls, we got dressed up all pretty and if they both like girls and are checking us out cause they like us, nothing wrong with that in my book!"
And at first there was some resistance, to what I said. But then as I kept plowing them with the above sentence the 5th time that it happened where we were checked out THEY said, "Hey maybe they both like girls and it's okay right Ghita!" I said, "That is RIGHT!"
Another technique, you have them all together on a couch, and they're cuddling, holding hands and playing with each others hair, you tell them, "All girls are bisexual right!?" Cut them of when they try to answer, and say, "You don't see GUYS holding hands and walking into the bathroom do you? Have you ever kissed a girl? Don't you find other girls hot? You're playing with her hair" And you're hugging her! Come on you wouldn't kiss a girl? BULLS***"
To which they get frustrated because I asked so many questions at once they have to agree once I let them get a word in, plus I am persuasive as all hell that all women are bisexual and I'm right.
Ghita
