Hi Ghita!!
Hmmm I'm really having some trouble reconnecting with my feminine side... I just only recently figured out that I've misinterpreted giving my power away as femininity, and that I've totally forgot how to be feminine... hmmm, I'm feeling kinda lost here, if you could offer some help it'd be awesome!! Like advice on how to separate poorme-bullshit from real femininity and such...
Thanks and luvs and warm hugs.
Ghita comments:
Learning the difference between giving away your power and being a feminine woman is something that I continue to work on a daily basis. It is really all about trusting yourself. If you cannot trust yourself, than you 'll have a hard time trusting others who are in your life.
It's about letting go of neediness. Many women tend to gravitate towards men that need us. And then we end up giving everything we've got to that man and having no energy left for ourselves. We freely let ourselves be energy vamped because we have the illusion that we are in love when we really are just needy. We have the need to be needed. (it reminds me of the song "I want you to want me, I need you to need me'
We crave love so badly that we'll put ourselves in positions of complete giving but for wrong reasons.
As a woman, a feminine woman, we may have to check our red, orange and yellow chakras a bit more and on a regular basis. You CAN trust yourself. You ARE OKAY. You have ENERGY to be YOURSELF. You are alive, and you are well. You ARE OKAY. (and say this out loud to yourself, I am okay, I am alive, and I am okay)
When you're interacting with others, it is out of a 'want' to interact. Not out of a 'need' to interact. You are choosing to interact with another person, you're not needing them.
And while you are interacting, you TRUST yourself that you will not let your self be energy vamped by others, and that you TRUST YOUR SELF that you will not do the same to others. This takes time and practice - you need to start cataloguing all of the little ways in which you give away your power, and shining the light of awareness on those.
When it comes to poor-me energies, I have a little trick. Its really simple, and it involves going for a walk in nature.
When you have an attack of the 'poor-me' energy it is usually from doing/saying/thinking something that you're ashamed of, and then going back into your head and thinking about all the other 'stupid' stuff that you've said/done/thought about.
And then it becomes a vicious cycle where you think about what you just did, what you've done, what you should do, and then what you just did do, and then about what you had done in the past and etc. etc.
Stephane tells me that this "cycle of poor me energy" is the equivalent of getting out a nice heavy hammer and whacking yourself on the head repeatedly until you learn a lesson. It's great fun you should try it the next time you go into a poor me cycle.(Please note that that was a joke and should not be attempted at home, haha)
When you are emotional, (ain't being a woman grand ;o) if you are in an area of "PM (poor-me)" then my first suggestion is to let out the energy of crying, anger, irritation, depression, out in a safe place, like a quiet park, forested area, your garden, or any place where there are trees and vegetation.
The reason I say go for a walk (especially in a green environment) is because it will let you breathe deeply (rich oxygen around the trees and vegetation)and you will be able to re-connect with your roots. And if you want to cry you will be able to freely, crying is a 'let-go' energy, (and you KNOW the difference between a 'let-go' cry and a 'PM' cry) you're releasing the energy of whatever you might think is 'wrong' with you, you letting go of the PM energy, releasing the blame you might feel for hurting your self, and you'll be able to realize what you can do in future pro-actively to not put your self in situations where you are hurting your self (or others).
When things are up in the air and you feel you have no control one of the steps I take to reconnect with myself is go out and hug a bunch of trees. You will ground yourself this way and feel like you ARE in control of your emotions.
Realize the freedom you have to be your self. When you are by yourself do you sing out loud? Do you dance weird dances? Do you check out your butt in the mirror and approve? Do you say funny things and talk in a different language that only you understand?
Become child-like again. Run naked around your house. Then lie down on the floor and breath deeply and sing a silly song. Get in touch with you. With your body, with your own personal freedom, with the feminine side of you.
breathing deeply with you while you run around naked and sing silly songs,
Ghita
p.s. While Stephane and I were up North we ran into some great looking trees and I took a few pictures to remind myself of how incredible nature is and how nature doesn't have attacks of the PM's
The tree that sang "I will survive" to me:
And feminine within the masculine ( We call this one "The Pussy Tree" ^^)
